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Okay, I had to come back to this thread because you guys were just so great in giving me ideas. I have incorporated many of them after sitting back, reading links you sent me from those sites @Pencil, speaking to others who are less prone to be 'defensive' than I am, and those of you who reminded me of the resources I have.
I am not so worried about anyone getting my health care info - @KwanYingirl you are right, this is not the chink in the armor for me, It is my driver's license that will be the problem. Although the two organizations are tied here, the woman I spoke to guaranteed me that she would not let the driver's organization know but warned me I must deal with it or there could be trouble in the future for me. @joeylittle, you suggested a women's resource group, which my shaman is a part of, so I called her to ask her advice. She was a great help as she can attest to the fact that she has been working with me for years regarding this situation. I may have to pull this card when I adjust my license information. @MaybeOneDay your idea of a lawyers office is brilliant! I can't do that right away but I can do that within a window of time so my friend is not put at risk hopefully for any length of time.
For a more permanent and life lasting strategy, I spoke with my T yesterday and he suggested that I bring in my SO (as he is less a defensive player to say the least). @Pencil that defensive point you made was brilliant. Thank you. Because I have no concept on how to 'play' besides defensively he thought it would be a good idea for he and my SO to walk through what would be helpful for me while I switch to offensive mode. T and I concurred that I will not get to full health again if I continue to run. This has to end. So, between the three of us we will figure out a plan to discourage these types of games coming from the other side. You are correct @Pencil, defensive is a slow process and I don't have time for slow anymore. This will be a great life lesson that I was not taught earlier in life. I trust my T and my SO very much so feel I am in good hands. So, I will learn how to play the game the way it is currently being played.
I also called the Health Care people again yesterday. The lady I spoke to last week was on holiday for two weeks. This turned out to be a good thing. The woman I spoke to yesterday had empathy for my situation. She spoke to a supervisor who spoke to a manager and they determined that my situation was 'special' (finally) and that they would accept limited amounts of ID (3 pieces) even if the address is not correct on them. She said there were many women who worked there of my age group and she couldn't imagine what it was like to have to run as I have (and I gave her very minimal information). She has reinstated my health care and I have an appt to sort this out on Friday morning.
Thank you all so very much for helping me through this. I can't tell you what it has meant.:hug:
I am not so worried about anyone getting my health care info - @KwanYingirl you are right, this is not the chink in the armor for me, It is my driver's license that will be the problem. Although the two organizations are tied here, the woman I spoke to guaranteed me that she would not let the driver's organization know but warned me I must deal with it or there could be trouble in the future for me. @joeylittle, you suggested a women's resource group, which my shaman is a part of, so I called her to ask her advice. She was a great help as she can attest to the fact that she has been working with me for years regarding this situation. I may have to pull this card when I adjust my license information. @MaybeOneDay your idea of a lawyers office is brilliant! I can't do that right away but I can do that within a window of time so my friend is not put at risk hopefully for any length of time.
For a more permanent and life lasting strategy, I spoke with my T yesterday and he suggested that I bring in my SO (as he is less a defensive player to say the least). @Pencil that defensive point you made was brilliant. Thank you. Because I have no concept on how to 'play' besides defensively he thought it would be a good idea for he and my SO to walk through what would be helpful for me while I switch to offensive mode. T and I concurred that I will not get to full health again if I continue to run. This has to end. So, between the three of us we will figure out a plan to discourage these types of games coming from the other side. You are correct @Pencil, defensive is a slow process and I don't have time for slow anymore. This will be a great life lesson that I was not taught earlier in life. I trust my T and my SO very much so feel I am in good hands. So, I will learn how to play the game the way it is currently being played.
I also called the Health Care people again yesterday. The lady I spoke to last week was on holiday for two weeks. This turned out to be a good thing. The woman I spoke to yesterday had empathy for my situation. She spoke to a supervisor who spoke to a manager and they determined that my situation was 'special' (finally) and that they would accept limited amounts of ID (3 pieces) even if the address is not correct on them. She said there were many women who worked there of my age group and she couldn't imagine what it was like to have to run as I have (and I gave her very minimal information). She has reinstated my health care and I have an appt to sort this out on Friday morning.
Thank you all so very much for helping me through this. I can't tell you what it has meant.:hug:
