General Taking Care Of Me

[cynelena]

I'm anxious to hear how the meeting went. I am so happy to hear about this wonderful new outlet. It seems to be coming at a good time too! You and your hubby have come SO far and it gives me at least hope that Dean and I can push forward.

Stay positive, healthy, and strong Amethist!

Thinking of you always,

Cyn

 

[amethist]

Had A Wonderful Day Out Yesterday.

I took a full day off yesterday from everything, caring, editing and housework. I went out for the day with my youngest daughter to York, we left at 9 am and did not get back until 6pm. We shopped, well mostly window shopping, had a wonderful Italian meal, and continually wondering in and out of all the quirky shops in York.

We wondered up and down the old streets, enjoying the sunshine yea it did shine for us most of the time. Checking out all the different shop we will go back to in a few months time to buy birthday and Christmas presents for the family.

I bought a lovely soap stone upright burner for incense sticks (Picture below of this Hopefully LOL) and an illuminated glass decoration to be put away for Christmas.

At the end of April I am going back to York, to a Spiritual and Healing Fair at the race course, I can sometimes get essential oils cheaper at these Fair's.

Here comes summer and freedom :rofl:

Amethist

 

[Noone.]

That's good news, you'll do great.
Friends.
Ken.

 

[amethist]

Bliss Of A Foot Spa

My daughter bought me a fancy all singing all dancing foot spa a few years ago, quite a few years ago LOL. It has now come into use more than ever before as my poor feet are beginning to suffer due to the heat and being on them most of the day. Aching, hot and at times throbbing to the point of, can't stand on them any longer on occasions, even though I have bought good shoes for work.

What bliss it was tonight, to sit for 15 minutes with my feet in the spa with aromatherapy oils, Lavender and Peppermint.

So now it's time for the "Physician heal thyself", not sleeping too good so am going to use my own aromatherapy to help with that.

Amethist

 

[ISupportHer]

What's that I smell?

I wish there was some soap in that foot spa. Opps, wrong thread!

:stupid: Bad ISH, BAD!

 

[Lauren]

Sounds like heaven to me ;o)

 

[amethist]

:rofl:Soap in a foot spa, you got to be joking. Now I have visions of my home being invaded by monster sized bubbles.

For your information ISH I do NOT have smelly feet.

Defiantly a small piece of heaven Lauren. You can make your own simple foot spa, a large bowl half full of warm water, some smooth pebbles in the bottom, ( the kind you put into plant pots for decoration are just fine). With a tiny amount of liquid soap, into which you have added 2 or 3 drops of essential oils. relax and enjoy. The pebbles help stimulate your feet.

Amethist

 

[Tbam]

I was struck by your comment " I have to mourn the loss of my husband who/as he was, before I can move on to help him be who he will be, if that is possible". Is that something that the counselor recommended? It seems like "mourning" is being inserted in place of "anger" . I am not sure if that is good or bad, just an observation. I think most carer's are angry, not mournful.

 

[Tbam]

sorry to deviate from the footspa and soap....

 

[Nicolette]

I think most carer's are angry, not mournful.

Tbam I think it depends and probably shifts between the two. Me, I can't be mournful, as I didn't know Anthony before PTSD so I have not lost anything and I am only angry occasionally when he gets really sick and it messes up plans like parties we have accepted invitations to etc. As for Amethist, she had been married for many years and the man who was her husband no longer is as PTSD has changed him. I get that requires a grieving process.

 

[anni]

Hi,

I click on Carer threads sometimes. It's funny but I wonder if anyone else is like me, and reads these and all of a sudded says HOLY HELL I HAVE A CARER. Poor guy! No matter how contained and self aware one is, boy do 'they' deal with wayyy more than the really shattering manifestions of a spouses PTSD. He gets to miss social events I just can't make myself get to, and go out of his way to go to the store on his way home from work ( after his long day and commute) and pick up the pieces when I've avoided the stuffing out of some friendship or overreacted our way into an awkward situation. Maybe it's nothing huge or obvious most days but it's SOMETHING( lots of things probably) everyday, and I have to think as exhausting in it's way for him as for me!! Yes, there's also the typical PTSD-knockdown-dragout moments, but the everyday-coping crap I do has to take skin off of his backside, too.

Wow. I have a Carer. I know he'd rather eat a live chicken than admit it at the moment, but I sure as heck do. He's getting a LARGE steak tonight, and I'd like to know how you all take yours?

 

[Tbam]

medium rare....