General Thank God I Was Guided Here

[Ann54]

Good Morning All

I am also new to this site and thank God I was guided here. I wish I had found it 3 years ago, things wouldn't be so bad now; His symptoms:

- My husband is in denial which makes handling it hard
- He has violent outbursts, directed at me
- His short term memory is appalling, he will forget a simple instruction the minute it's said
- His reality is totally off the wall and he is living in the past
- He doesn't trust a single soul, not even his children
- He has hyper days which are as bad as his down days
- He is acting the part, pretending everything is ok
- When a bout is coming on, his eyes change and I know we're in for a turbulant ride for the next 2 or 3 months, we are in one now
- Because of HIS PTSD I now have clinical depression and am on anti-depressants
- Every day is hard with no light at the end of the tunnel and he doesn't care

There are many more symptoms but when someone is in denial there is absolutely nothing anyone can do, not even his Pyschiatrist.

 

[Nicolette]

Welcome to the forum Ann.

 

[Frankie]

Welcome to the forum Ann,

Glad you found this forum, lots of information and support here.....Read as much as you can to better understand this disorder. It is not easy, I agree....and you are so right, when they are in denial....there is nothing we can do but be there and try to support as much as we can !

The man you knew before his ptsd is not the same man anymore, you will see glimpse of him.....but you will both have to adjust to the new man he has become......It can be done Ann, with lots of work, support and understanding !


Frankie

 

[Shoka]

Dear Ann54

The changing of the eyes... Boy I can relate to that one. I always found that to be a little frightening. Has be been diagnosed with PTSD by his pyshciatrist?

Shoka

 

[pebbels]

Hello Ann54:hello:
What a difficult and horrible situation you are in. The one thing that concerns me is the violence, if you want to stay with him even though he is in denial and will not change until he recieves help that is your decision but to stay and take the violence is not good, that is abuse and should not be tolerated Ann. It must be very damaging for you and your children.

I'm sorry you have developed depression, that is not uncommon if carers don't look after themselves whilst supporting a sufferer. Ann LOOK after YOU now. You can read all you can here and get support but at the end of the day YOUR husband needs to wake up and seek help, maybe an ultimatum will jolt him.

Wishing you all the best.:Hug_emoticon:

Pebs

 

[WillIsurvive]

Welcome to the forum. Every symptom you listed is my husband as well.

This is an uncertain time. Be strong for yourself, recognize the symptoms and back away when you need to. It's very hard, especially at first when you realize how serious it is and that you have a changed man in your life. The anger is directed at you but not about you....disconnect from it, don't fuel it. That's what I'm doing and it's working for me. All the best of luck to you.