The Face Of Marriage...

[Sludge]

So let me get this out straight before I start my rant. My wife is hardcore. She has to be to put up with my shit. I was once told by a very wise man that the secret to any healthy relationship is to find the one person that can put up with your shit, and you can put up with theirs.


Anyway, I have some really cool pirate style facial scarring. Okay. more healed over zombie than pirate, but I figure pirates are less likely to suffer a headshot...;)

Today, we were out in public and a few folks made oa few rude comments about my face. This honestly doesnt bother me in the least bit. I sort of enjoy making people feel as uncomfortable as I feel. ANyway, my wife started to say something in my defense and i stopped her. Easier to just walk away. Some fat Husker fan in a grocery store isn't worth my time or effort. Period. (Po-dog really tried to help with this one, but aggressive people is not something he is trained to deal with.)

No big deal. Happens all the time. I could care less. My wife was raging however.

As we ride home in the car, out of the blue she asks me if I ever thought putting my theatrical prosetic make-up skills to use and make a daily wear piece to hide that side of my face.

I was appalled. I didn't realize it bothered her that much. Hell I was scarred up like this years before she and I even met. And yet today I find out that she actually finds it a bit disgusting.


I don't know if I should be pissed off, sad, or busy sculpting a few molds up from old pictures to make her more comfortabe.

i had to wear a medical mask for a few weeks while things were healing up (and to hold my cheek and eyesocket together...). I see no reason to hide what I think makes me look like a guy that knows whats what. The eye works just fine, so it's not like I wear an eyepatch or anything.

I dunno what to do. I'm afraid to even discuss it with her.

 

[Jimmy1]

Come straight out and ask mate. She has stuck with you this long, so I don't think she is going anywhere in a hurry.
I think you owe it to both of you. For your sake and for hers. Just be prepared for her answer mate.

So your saying your pug looks better are you???:cautious:

 

[JarHed]

Hey Sludge

I've got a huge scar on the right side of my face that goes up and around my eye. So I kinda' know what you mean when you say that people look at you at bit 'funny'. I was once told by a doctor that I could have it 'fixed'. I said no. I've always thought of it like a dueling scar. Got a bit of a scary mug to begin with so it just fits in well. It's not so noticable now, after all these years it's faded a bit. People still look at me funny. I always look down thinkin' maybe my dick is hangin' out or something. :ROFLMAO:

Your wife sounds a bit like mine, one that, for what ever reason, is willing to put up with me. I could never figure out why but I'm glad she's always stuck with me. In today's world that's a big deal as so many marrages go south the first time a problem pops up.

I have to agree with Jimmy here. Talk to her about it. If you deal with things as they come up there's less of a problem than if you wait and let it stew. What ever the outcome it's better to get it into the open where you can both deal with it.

Jar