So I'm recovering from yet another one of my kids threatening suicide. I was able to talk sense into him.
He was going to come up after that but went to the pub instead, said he would come up to eat here after that but just didn't. Didn't answer texts or phone calls from me or his older brother either.
Now I'm not complaining that I'm tied up in knots about him, I honestly think he's fine, it was a tantrum and a non-issue. There are real issues, but the conversation that lead to the threat was a farcical defence of someone he didn't even know, that I do know, about them being offended and upset by people accidentally getting a gender pronoun "wrong".
I think maybe we just need to throw the whole idea of gender out, because apparently it has nothing to do with sex (genitals) anymore so it's just a "cultural construct", yeah, one that is causing huge amounts of discriminatory "gender" politics now, divisive rhetoric, that had my kid thinking, somehow, I didn't respect his choice to be "non binary" instead of me saying, choosing an identity of "non-binary" doesn't preclude one from the consequences of exhibiting a lack of social grace, as in the case of the individual in question.
To which he threatened to kill himself, because "if you and Dad don't respect my choice to be non binary then maybe I should just kill myself"
To which I responded, "you don't even know this person. I'm calling an ambulance". To which he replied You won't find me".
This was a text conversation. I immediately rang him, crying, and eventually got to clarify my point, validate his pain and calm him down.
He was on his way up here, after that, because his Autistic brother turned up and he didn't want to see him.
He didn't turn up. I texted him "are you ok?" He said "yeah, I'm at the pub". Then was going to turn up here, later, for food.
Anyway, long story short; No one's heard from him since.
I think he's ok. I think his phone is flat and he "got lucky" at the pub.
Although I haven't checked, today, to see whether he turned up.
Otherwise he's being a mean bitch and just turning the knife in my guts again, because as my partner says "I'm a lovely, sweet hearted soft target" , by this I'm referring to; not answering his phone or replying to texts after threatening to do the ultimate hurtful thing coz he's not dealing and namng actual issues. That, or something's happened to him.
