The Small Things In Life. What Makes You Happy?

[p-no]

Knowing that Jake has seen my worst days and he is not going to leave.

I'm starting to fall in love with Jake, too. :) Grateful you have him in your life, Charmedone

 

[Charmedone]

I'm starting to fall in love with Jake, too. :) Grateful you have him in your life, Charmedone

Thanks :) he is wonderful.

Was shopping this morning with friends during our 'tour' with work and was really fun...all ended up with fits of giggles. :)

 

[Sammy]

For the first time in a long time, today I feel relaxed. Truly relaxed. Now that is good. I took my dog for a walk today and a couple of people commented about what a good dog he is and how handsome he is. That made me happy. Actually took some time for me this week - without feeling selfish or guilty. I feel progress. :tup:

I tend to leave the forum when I am in a bad place. I just don't want to communicate with anyone.

 

[JustBe]

I like this idea! I've only been in therapy for a month and am still coming to terms with this new reality, but I did notice that I was smiling while playing outside with the dogs today. I can count on one hand the number if times I've smiled without forcing myself to in the last year, so this was a nice surprise and I allowed myself to enjoy the moment.

 

[Loloma]

Movin'On and Sammy that's a great start. It's the seconds of happiness that lead to minutes and so forth.

You hear people you have lost a loved one express guilt when they suddenly smile or laugh. I've been there several times and done that. It doesn't mean they are not greiving or that the hurt is gone. The same applies to traumas we have suffered.

I guess in a way it's like recovering from illness or surgery. The suffering and pain can overwhelm us, but day by day we start to feel better and then one day we realise that we are almost better. The same can't entirely be said with PTSD, however we can reach the stage where it doesn't consume our lives. Where we have a lot more good days than bad ones.

It has taken me decades to recover enough to move on, and a few times I have fallen down that "hole" when my marriages failed. My life isn't quite where I want it to be, but I'm getting there.

Keep smiling and enjoying those precious moments.

 

[Shellbell]

I agree that people often feel guilt when feeling happiness and so often people don't think they deserve happiness.

I have lots of times of happiness - with my children, my husband, laughing with friends, enjoying the beautiful sunshine. Yes I have a lot of bad times, BUT I do have happy, joyful times too - and that makes it all worth it.

And we do deserve to feel happy and have joy. Often we don't think we deserve it, but we do.

My life is definitely not where I want it to be either, but I am chosing to change that and I am moving towards changing that and to have more peace in my life, and even more happy times.

I like this thread!

 

[Loloma]

Thanks Shellbell, pleased to hear that you're moving forward. A much better state to be in than the negativity cycle. :tup:

 

[Loner]

Today was a good day. Woke up not wanting to get out of bed just like every day of the past few weeks. Then I went for an awesome mountain bike adventure through the mountains, scouting out the route for an even awesome bike adventure I've wanted to do for a few years but havent known exactly where to go to link up different trails. Finally figured it out today had a great time and am even more excited about doing the bigger ride in a couple weeks once i build up my endurance.

Also, my knee, which had surgery for ACL repair 7 months ago, is feeling STRONG. Lots of hiking with the bike on my shoulder through rough terrain and it felt good. Came home, went to the gym ran further and faster on the treadmill than I have since the surgery, even after my 4 hour ride, which is great.

Came home, convinced my roommate who has been somewhat aloof (probably all in my head but still) to accompany me on the big bike adventure ride in a couple weeks, which is great especially because it requires a car shuttle.

Then my landlord told me some woman he knows heard me playing guitar and singing and wants me to play music at some business she has I think a restaurant, she wouldn't be paying me, I'd just be getting tips, but just the fact that she thinks I'm good enough to attract people instead of drive them away is awesome.

I have also signed up for meetup.com recently which has lots of different groups of people meeting up (hence the name) to do different activities, I went for a bike ride with a couple guys a couple days ago which was fun, and have signed up to go for a hike on sunday. Even if I don't make any friends doing it, it will still be cool to meet new people and do some trips I might not otherwise do, and I am excited about it.

 

[JustBe]

Wow Loner! I wish I had half your energy! Enjoy!

 

[Tanishq]

Dear Loloma, you did great by creating this thread. Happiness in little amount always shine like diamond. :hug:

I have started loving some forum members. They are my friends who understands me what I am going through. Writing/sharing, talking, taking part in chit chat forum does make me feel good, even if I am going through very low.

More over anthony's rule in making paragraph and some other grammatical awareness has made me more aware person. I can type every post with cool mind. This is change. First I used to be so hasty to let it out.

Now I have one more thing to be happy. Humanity is still alive. There are human beings who support others and love the life. None can compare the honest taste of being human-being. Even this humanity can produce anything which may sound complete impossible or out of our reach.

 

[JustBe]

After a rough day yesterday I have energy today for the first time in...forever! Here's a photo of what I accomplished this morning I moved and stacked a pile of wood I've been thinking of doing all summer but felt too overwhelmed to even start.

 

[KP the nut]

Cooking with my H and then eating together with a bottle of wine.