They Fired My Boss..

[Go Hungry]

So they fired my boss this morning. Out of nowhere, one moment she was in her office talking to an HR guy, next thing he's walking her out of the building. She didn't say a word in passing. It's over. I'm thinking it's all over, for me at least. The only reason I have a job at all is because she was shielding me. Making excuses for why I was always missing time for doctor's appts and stuff. Now that she's gone... I wonder if I'm even going to have a job come Monday.. And if I lose it.. I'm over. Done. Finito... Without that job, there won't be any health insurance, without health insurance, no meds and no therapy, without those two things.. I'm as good as dead. There won't be any 'going back to school' because the state paid for one class a semester.. There won't be anything... And goddamn me for smoking pot this last monday.. now I have to wait a damn month before I can pass a drug test. I'm completely hosed, and it's all my own fault..

I'm numb right now.. Numb on the inside and out. I wonder how long it'll last before I just break down completely. Better take a lorazepam now, for the eventual explosion.

 

[silkleaves]

Oh man...I am so sorry to hear this!!!! I wish I had something to say in the moment, but holding out hope that you'll be okay and won't end up having your job affected. :hug:

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Wow, you have so much on your plate right now. I hate the suspense of waiting and knowing what you could lose. Here to listen so please just vent away. Hugs.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

I am sorry @Go Hungry

I feel for you with the balance or medication and therapy, it's delicate and important. Is there someone you can talk to about it? Maybe your therapist has ideas?

 

[seedling]

Feeling for you. She went the extra distance for you.
Take care of yourself the best you can right now.

 

[The Albatross]

Crunch time. It can be a motivator or it can be a crash. You decide? What coping skills can you use to perform?

 

[Go Hungry]

I'm coping better now.. Got a chance for some perspective on it. From what we've been able to gather, they are planning on hiring another director after all. So they aren't shutting down the dept. And from what a friend tells me, this is the best way it could happen, as they saw the trouble being with the director rather than us workers. Bummer that it happened though.. She was the best boss I ever had. But que sera sera... Just going to have to do everything as if I've just started a new job, be perfect in my execution and so forth. I'm up to it.

 

[greenleaf]

I am likely to get a new supervisor soon too... hoping for flexibility and positive energy, at the least. In the mean time... I think I'm avoiding thinking about it! Denial is one of my favorite skills.:headphone: There is also a chance that new positive things can come from such changes.

I wonder if you'd like to keep in touch with your old manager as a friend, if that would be helpful in any way (she might or might not find it helpful too)?

 

[seedling]

Hope your Monday went all right. The best of luck with whoever the new person is. Do your absolute best but also be yourself. Every employee has something that management knows they have to work around/with. I think being willing to take direction, correct mistakes and learn from them, work with others, listen and communicate as well as you can, etc.. goes a long way.

It's nice when the perspective kicks in!

 

[Go Hungry]

Well the first day went well.. There was staff meeting in the morning which went fairly uneventfully, except I found out that some of the guys in the office needed help with things that they had never brought up while the old boss was there, and felt the need to speak of. So I just went ahead and asked them how I can help and have started addressing that stuff before the new boss even asks me to. :)

Still some apprehension though. Unfortunately I have a terrible memory and barely know any of the 'rules' to my job.. I just have a routine that I stick to and that has carried me so far. But I think I'm going to have to do better than that. New boss said he'd hold meetings with each of us next tuesday, so I've got that long to come up with a good line of things to talk to him about. I'm really wondering when I should bring up my PTSD.. I mean, I've had to put in FMLA papers on it already, and I'm sure he's going to need to know about it. Not sure what approach to take... The thing is that I don't know if this guy even believes in mental illness or disability. :(

 

[Suzetig]

He doesn't need to believe in mental health, or disability, he needs to work within the law. I know that might sound harsh but sometimes, when a boss or manager makes allowances for us or tries to be protective it can work against what we actually need, which is to be supported to work to the best of our ability with reasonable adjustments to meet any health needs we have. Where people go over and above, or don't hold us to our responsibilities or try to make things easier by cutting corners they're actually undermining us.

I know it's scary but it might actually be healing for you to have to pick up all of your job, learn the rules and work within them. It might help you build capacity you didn't know you had and your team surely deserve the best "you" possible? Rather than thinking about whether you need to tell the new boss about PTSD, it may be worth having a look at the kind of supports that would help you to relearn your job and asking for these. That would tell you how much you needed to mention before you get into the meeting.

I've been on both sides if this and can see now how damaged I was by a boss that couldn't keep appropriate boundaries and wanted to shield me in my job.

 

[silkleaves]

Heey! Good that you took initiative in talking with the new boss. I'd say it sounds like you are off to a good start, you were able to think on your feet today, even with all your worry over the weekend if you'd still even have a job. I have total confidence in you that you'll be ready come next week when it's time to talk with them.

Easy to say but hard to do, I know...but try not to get too worried about what your new boss will think of you having PTSD... it's not up to them to decide whether they believe in it or not, you have it and it's something you have already filed FMLA papers on and in the process of. So at this point, take it easy and at least wait to see if your new boss gives you any reason to put up a fight, so to speak.

Like I said, easy to say but hard to do. Just that I'm rooting for ya :hug: