Today, My Husband Messaged Me With This...

[Riot]

@Saelben, powerful!

 

[Milo's papa]

@Saelben and Riot, soooo very true.

 

[camabelu]

This comes from a survivor. Whoever has the place of survivor in your life as supporter is fortunate indeed. I'd have loved it if my husband had even tried to recognize the struggles I dealt with as a survivior. Instead he blamed me for things that were my fault, were not my fault, were his issues, weren't "things" to apportion blame to at all. If I sound bitter, I promise I'm not. Not anymore. But it's taken me 6 years from the time he decided I wasn't worth it and the woman he'd met, was.
When I read comments like yours I remind myself that there are wonderful people in this world and that, with some effort on my part, I'll meet one and fall in love again.

 

[Riot]

@camabelu, I'm not sure who you were directing this at, and it's been a minute since I read this thread, but I support the idea that you are indeed worth it. <3

 

[Deleted member 17302]

My husband messaged me today from work. I don't know how I feel about this, or what to even say.

When I...

What he wrote is beautiful. He seems to love the crap out of you and just wants you to know that he doesn't take offense at your symptoms and just wants to love you as much as he can. What a wonderful thing to leave for you. I wish i could have written something that well for my partner before she bailed.

 

[LostHusband]

I'm a supporter of my PTSD wife. I understood what he wrote 100%. From my perspective it came from an honest place of loneliness and just wanting things to be normal again (whatever that was). I can relate to everything he said. I too get so frustrated when my wife has a really good day, I get excited and filled with hope. Then the next day the PTSD takes over and I don't recognize her. I know that it's not at all her fault, but it simply breaks my heart...it really is that simple.

 

[Tinyflame]

I guess what hasn't been said here, is the sufferer wants that as much or even more. Recognizing it's not there & going through it & the frustration trying not to or no or slow recovery, is part of why sufferers come to say no one deserves that, best to find someone else. No one who loves their spouse wants them to feel unhappy because of their presence/ ptsd.

 

[Deleted member 33052]

@Riot seeing as how I just got *replaced* without a word of warning, I thinks it's cool that your husband wants you to understand how this feels from his side, and that his phrasing was so respectful. :)

 

[Riot]

@Mal Content, sadly this was quite awhile ago.

 

[The Albatross]

What a crock Mal.. you haven't yet been replaced... though he has a plan B. So what do you do? Spread misinformation and skew your own issues on somebody else's thread.. NIce. (not)

 

[Deleted member 33052]

What a crock Mal.. you haven't yet been replaced... though he has a plan B. So what do you do? S...

Have I done something to offend you, Albatross? :confused: My husband did admit that he was looking for a replacement, and he found one.

 

[The Albatross]

Not hijacking Riot's thread. Sorry.