Triggered By An Ex,in My House,where I Live With My Abuser. Scared

[Pixi23]

So I came home from work tonight to find my television gone. It took me a while to notice. I still live with my parents so I ran and asked my mother what happened to it. She said she had let my ex inside the house to get it because he had said he was "getting what was his." Mind you, it was technically his. He said he'd allow me to borrow it.

But now I feel so on edge. Before this, we broke up because he razor cut his chest in front of me when I said I didnt love him anymore. Then he claimed to have went to a counselar and he claimed she said I was a narcissist. Then later, tells me he made it up...I have been broken up with him for a while and for good reason but when I moved back into the area, we started talking again. He lives literally five mintues away. But after we started talking , his controlling and possessive ways became clear again.

By the way, my mom is mentally unstable to somec capacity. She is not diagnosed but she watched me being abused as a child by the same "father" I live with now so..something isnt right. THEN she lets in my ex who razored himself in front of me !?

I have nowhere else to go. I feel even MORE unsafe here than I did before with my abusive father.

Please please someone give me some hope. The stress is all crashing down on me. Lost a job, moved back with the abuser, lost my best friend, got diagnosed with RA....WHY IS THIS HAPPENING and how can I ever make it through ?!
*oh and I dont trust counselars. My ptsd makes me overly paranoid.[DOUBLEPOST=1406177394,1406177292][/DOUBLEPOST]Also, i called law enforcement and told them to make a report because I was so scared. Even though nothing violent happened I am just disturbed my mother would let him in ans now he knows the layout of my bedroom in the basement and that creeps me out.

 

[youngvetdude]

Sit your mother down first and explain what is going on and tell her you and him are done and u don't want him in the house and any information that you think would help her understand your point of view. And second don't talk to the guy be respectful but don't get into a relationship no matter what of it already going bad. Distance yourself and keep your head up. Kind of in a similar living situation but I am keeping my head down going to college and saving cash for a new places. Use this time at your mother to get everything ready to move out and take back control of every aspect of your life.

 

[anonymous]

Also, i called law enforcement and told them to make a report because I was so scared.

I get that you are freaked out and I understand, really I do. But is there something missing from this story that would make it something to make a police report about? The way I'm reading it your ex came to your mother's home, she gave him permission to enter, he took only something that belonged to him and left without incident all while you were not home. I understand you're uncomfortable with it and you're feeling unsafe and on edge. But I fail to see what about that makes it something for the police to get involved with and make a report about.

 

[Pixi23]

Because he has been harrassing me with texts and I've been continuously rejecting him.
PTSD is very irrational and tends to play it extra safe rather than sorry...which is what the police said.

If you let little bad things keep happening, the cutting, the non stop texts, the barging in, it turns into something bigger.

Found this out first hand from my father. I called police so I could feel a bit of security.

 

[shimmerz]

If you tell him to stop writing texts and cease all contact (in writing) and he refuses to do so you can go to the police with concrete stuff. They can then become involved in a more helpful way.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

He didn't break the law. Yes, you made a report, but nothing is enforceable since he has not been breaking the law. Have you been replying to any of his texts or are you ignoring him? If he is texting you non-stop, why haven't you blocked his number? That would stop that avenue of harassment. Oh wait, you have been continuously rejecting him. Let's face it, some guys are dumb, dumb, dumb. ANY contact is an invitation to further contact and they think it means you are interested. Maybe he thinks you are playing hard to get? Cease ALL contact, which means simply stop replying. If you didn't want anything to do with him, then why did you have anything of his? No offense, but you speak of not letting anything bigger happen, but at the same time you aren't taking basic proactive steps to protect yourself.

 

[Pencil]

It is unsettling. He could have contacted you to make arrangements to retrieve the TV, instead of pitching. I don't think you're unduly paranoid about it.[DOUBLEPOST=1406185267,1406185087][/DOUBLEPOST]A stalker often 'does nothing', such as standing peacefully outside the victim's house. I have no idea what the background to all of this is, but I can see that his behaviour might be experienced as intrusive or even intimidating.