That part is lieing to you.Part of me believes he did it to piss me off enough that I’d reach out with my anger.
He did it because he is worried. He is a T, not a manipulative person from your past. And he is right to be worried. You sound as though all hope is lost, and you have disengaged, you are emotionally numb, you don't see the point. All that is worrying and he wants to make sure you are safe.
Do you feel able to reach out to him? And explain that you would like him to give you a warning next time? Maybe he also needs an agreement with you, that he needs to hear from you to reassure him you're ok.
I sincerely hope you are able to make contact.
It might also help with this current trigger.