trying to heal in the place you were hurt

[zo1111]

so i have experienced physical emotional and sexual abuse all at the hands of my father in my childhood home, where i still currently live. i live on one side with my mother, he's lives on the other side. the abuse stopped when i was about 12, I'm now 18. i have and still do feel extremely stuck. i don't know whats wrong with me and i feel stupid for where i am at in my life. i have been in and out of treatment centers the last 4 years. i do not want to give up on myself but i feel so f*cking lost, i don't go to school i don't have a job. i go to therapy, my therapist is really pushing me to put myself out there, i don't know why i have zero motivation. i am so miserable, but i put myself in this position, i made myself miserable. so what I'm basically writing this for is to ask what has helped any of you to i guess "move forward" in a way, i feel like i should know myself what i need to do, but i honestly feel so damn stuck so idk. thanks

 

[ladee]

If you felt better what would you like to do? Is there a career you are interested in? A place you would like to travel to?.

Forget for a few minutes the pain you are in. And see what dreams you have. We all have dreams regardless of how we feel.


If you find something we will do our best to support you to realize your goal. No matter how long it takes.

I know if I hah had support when I was feeling as you do now, i would have had a different life.

Being here will help. Glad you are here.

 

[The Albatross]

I had a sponsor who shoved me into a victims advocacy volunteer program commitment. Immensely difficult but she sat with me through the training course and I did the commitment for over a year. That was her way of pushing me "back out there" and it did do what she intended it to do. Start small and consider or discuss a volunteer commitment. It is a good way to learn management techniques and challenge exposures.

 

[The Albatross]

P.S. (doing some retro reading and it's too late to add this above in edit) “If you aim at nothing, you will hit every time.” – Zig Ziglar

 

[zo1111]

If you felt better what would you like to do? Is there a career you are interested in? A place you would like to travel to?.

Forget for a few minutes the pain you are in. And see what dreams you have. We all have dreams regardless of how we feel.


If you find something we will do our best to support you to realize your goal. No matter how long it takes.

I know if I hah had support when I was feeling as you do now, i would have had a different life.

Being here will help. Glad you are here.

thank you, I guess i could say I'm super black and white thinking so when I feel bad, everything is just bad. if that makes sense. so i need that reality check of like, things aren't as bad as i think, and i can have a better future

I had a sponsor who shoved me into a victims advocacy volunteer program commitment. Immensely difficult but she sat with me through the training course and I did the commitment for over a year. That was her way of pushing me "back out there" and it did do what she intended it to do. Start small and consider or discuss a volunteer commitment. It is a good way to learn management techniques and challenge exposures.

i have been thinking about going to an animal shelter, just need to actually get myself to physically go now, thanks for the response i appreciate it

 

[HealingInProcess]

i have been thinking about going to an animal shelter, just need to actually get myself to physically go now, thanks for the response i appreciate it

You're young and have your whole life agead of you so there is much to be hopeful about.

 

[zo1111]

You're young and have your whole life agead of you so there is much to be hopeful about.

i do try to remind myself that, thank you

 

[sunisstillshining]

You have so much life ahead. I know that it may look overwhelming right now, but you can get through this. Have you considered talking with your therapist about the possibility of changing your environment? Also, as Albatross said, volunteering is a great way to challenge yourself and get out there a little bit. Sometimes helping others can be just what you need. I would be glad to point you to some resources on the topic, and I am sure that your therapist would as well. Hope that helps!