Relationship Uncertain - is my friend's partner showing narcisistic behaviour?

[starbeam]

I am wondering what you think of someone who is emotionally abusive to their partner and then asks them to marry them shortly after they lost a family member after a year of being together?

Is that a warning sign?

Is this a common narcissistic technique? To get the partner to agree to commit while they are grieving?

I noticed love - bombing behaviours previously and think this feels like one too?

 

[Deleted member 541]

It could be any type of behavior. My question.... Why is the partner still with this person if they are enduring emotional abuse????

 

[starbeam]

They don't see it, I think they are in denial. But I see it.

 

[Deleted member 541]

Are you a qualified psychiatrist or Psychologist that you can make the diagnosis that this person is a narcissist?

 

[Deleted member 44240]

That’s classic narcissistic behavior. Marriage? Really? I would definitely leave them alone and run while you have the chance.

 

[digger]

Can you explain more on how you're thinking the proposal is a sign of narcissism? What is your relationship to these people?

Also, does anyone involved in this scenario have PTSD?

 

[Deleted member 44240]

Can you explain more on how you're thinking the proposal is a sign of narcissism? What is your relations...

Not referring to the marriage proposal as narrcissitic; the emotional abuse and then the extreme behavioral change. Do you know these people?

 

[digger]

@B.J.

My questions were for the OP to clarify the situation.

 

[Deleted member 44240]

@B.J.

My questions were for the OP to clarify the situation.

I’m sorry. No problem. In addition to your question, I’d like to know why the person would stick around for emotional abuse?

I am wondering what you think of someone who is emotionally abusive to their partner and then asks them to marry them...

Please let whoever this is know that emotional abuse is definitely not ok. They deserve someone who is going to treat them with simple human kindness and love. If this person is a narcissist, they can become extremely dangerous and damaging to the person.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissism

 

[Deleted member 44240]

This particular thread has hit home for me. I really wish I could connect with the OP. Please respond with updates as soon as possible.

 

[EveHarrington]

I’m sorry. No problem. In addition to your question, I’d like to know why the person would stick aroun...

It’s incredibly dangerous and irresponsible to “diagnose” someone fourth hand based on ONE scenario. This isn’t really helping anyone involved given that narcissism is a psychiatric disorder, you aren’t a doctor, and it’s impossible to diagnose someone over the internet.

 

[Fadeaway]

I noticed love - bombing behaviors previously and think this feels like one too?

Love bombing after a family member dies? That isn't typical of abusers in my experience. Now, I can only go off of my personal experience, but the abusers in my life always became more cruel or less emotionally available after death. My theory is that they knew I wouldn't leave during those times because I was desperate for emotional support and wouldn't want to deal with the aftermath of another loss or perceived loss.

I did look up narcissism and love bombing, since my experience with narcissism comes from parent narcissism and not romantic partner narcissism. It appears that love bombing only happens in the beginning of a narcissism relationship. Of course most of the information I found was just from everyday bloggers and not from professionals.

I just found this question strange and I am more concerned about the motive of the OP than the proposal, and after all the reading I just did on the topic, I feel non the wiser.