Unsure What To Do About Unusual Self Harm

[Ubuw]

I used to hit my head up against a wall really hard over and over. So hard that i broke the drywall once. I didnt get a brain injury. Im not saying she wont, im just saying that she might not. She may as well.

 

[Tapi]

Having PTSD is like falling backwards, into a long, dark hole, with no safety net. Just embracing for final impact.

 

[Esi]

Thanks for the suggestions, I will look up borderline. I'm staying for now but preparing things so I can leave in a hurry if necessary. Yes it's very sad. Story of both our lives really. Person has plenty of friends they could easily reconnect with if necessary, which I expect would happen if I leave. That's what happened before although the friends are not the greatest people. I on the other hand, have no one to reconnect with and I'm not sure any of my family would help me.

I hate my life.

 

[Odeteb]

I hate my life.

I bet! Im sorry!

If they have people they can reconnect with and be safe (was more projecting myself in their spot and I also have no one) then Id def say leaving would be in order. You need a safe secure place that is inducive to healing.

Im sorry you have to deal with this. I know what its like to have no one!

If they are Borderline, the good news is you can approach them differently and it should help.

But either way, please stay safe! :hug:

 

[Gada]

Thank you, even today I notice:

Odd questions that would be considered common sense, which has increased since the self harm of their head :cry:

 

[Eduf]

I have some really strong opinions on this. If you stay, which you say you are going to because it is not easy for you to leave right now, then stay and don't judge. I would guess that your judgement is not helping the self harm situation.

She is self harming because she is in deep deep pain inside. Why don't people understand this? If you heap judgement on top of pain what do you expect?

Have you tried talking to her calmly? Have you asked her what you can do to help? Are you pretending to love her when really you don't? Sorry, calling you to task on this one. If she is so 'f*cked up' then get out. Don't do her more damage by staying and treating her like a freak of nature. Man up.

 

[Ihepu]

Are you pretending to love her when really you don't?

no, why are you assuming it's a woman? I never once used the term - f*cked up.

I have told this person we don't fit, it's more financially sensible for us both to stay together right now.

I don't know if you are projecting, it certainly seems like it.

 

[Ani]

why are you assuming it's a woman? I never once used the term - f*cked up.

Some other posters assumed it was a 'she' several posts ago, and you didn't correct or contradict. I don't think it's anything but a misunderstanding.

Staying together for the money never really works out, in my experience. It might be adding strain and stress to the situation, which will make it worse.

 

[Tepud]

I have kept it gender neutral for privacy reasons.

I know it's making it worse, I certainly haven't 'heaped judgement' on said person, I am really concerned about their mental health and feel extremely powerless