catlover26
Silver Member
I have posted here several times before. My relationship is complex with my Vet but I thought I could talk after my Al-Anon meeting to someone about a recent issue but something she said was very upsetting. In about 20 min. it is hard to explain a situation to someone. There is a lot going on in my Vet's life with depression and family issues. Not making excuses for him but he can say some things that can be misunderstood and not make sense and I have to question him to clarify it or I really need to learn how to stop the conversation.
Anyway he doesn't like it when I bring up these conflicting topics. He is a recovering alcoholic and it is easy for him to get upset. I was telling her about it last night. She said it didn't sound like we had a healthy relationship if I couldn't express my feelings. It really wasn't a long enough discussion for me to tell her enough about him and our relationship. I have replayed my discussion with him in my mind and I asked him if my opinion mattered. I am not sure exactly what he said. But it was probably something like he just can't handle these discussions. But he does know my opinion and we have talked about how I feel about certain things. Right now he is not feeling well and a lot has to be taken into consideration. Our communication is overall good but of course that varies with how he is feeling.
I just was hoping I would have someone at Al-Anon that I could talk to but it doesn't seem at the small group that I am in that I will have anyone that I will feel like talking to.
Anyway after that happened we did decide we needed to take this week as a break from each other. I am not really good at doing those kinds of things but I know he needs some time by himself.
Anyway he doesn't like it when I bring up these conflicting topics. He is a recovering alcoholic and it is easy for him to get upset. I was telling her about it last night. She said it didn't sound like we had a healthy relationship if I couldn't express my feelings. It really wasn't a long enough discussion for me to tell her enough about him and our relationship. I have replayed my discussion with him in my mind and I asked him if my opinion mattered. I am not sure exactly what he said. But it was probably something like he just can't handle these discussions. But he does know my opinion and we have talked about how I feel about certain things. Right now he is not feeling well and a lot has to be taken into consideration. Our communication is overall good but of course that varies with how he is feeling.
I just was hoping I would have someone at Al-Anon that I could talk to but it doesn't seem at the small group that I am in that I will have anyone that I will feel like talking to.
Anyway after that happened we did decide we needed to take this week as a break from each other. I am not really good at doing those kinds of things but I know he needs some time by himself.
