Relationship Victim Projecting

[the8track]

Do any of you have a sufferer who projects their wrongs on you?

I noticed a weird consistency where my ex-girlfriend flips the script on everything. Everything that she's guilty of or needs to own up for all of the sudden somehow appears in something I'm doing, no matter how irrational it is.

Does anyone have this problem to deal with and if so, how do you take charge of a situation like that?

 

[angelheart]

Are you two able to have an open, honest discussion?

 

[the8track]

I don't really think so. She's in a very reactionary, almost mixed-bipolar sort of zone right now. Cycling between being angry with me (manic) and ultra-needy (depressive) at the same time. Last night I let her know I was setting some boundaries in how quickly I respond to her because the mood changes and the mind-changing can get hard on me. Not received very well. That's as far as we've gotten.

I just noticed a consistency in the projecting things she's doing on me - both big and small.

 

[Knak]

Do any of you have a sufferer who projects their wrongs on you?

I noticed a weird consistency where my ex-girlfriend flips the script on everything. Everything that she's guilty of or needs to own up for all of the sudden somehow appears in something I'm doing, no matter how irrational it is.

Does anyone have this problem to deal with and if so, how do you take charge of a situation like that?

I have to deal with it in my husband. I couldn't believe it when he first started doing this to me. I am mostly stunned by it. I end up yelling at him because it is the only thing that keeps him off my back. He does not seem capable of reason. I am the person with CPSTD.