Relationship Vulnerability.....goes A Loooong Way, But Damn Its Hard.

[Amack]

Holiday seasons bring out my ire. I love them but don't these days.:arghh;:arghh;:arghh; I get so tired of dealing with the dysfunctional family that NEVER understands my sufferer their family member has CPTSD. Every year for 5 years......and again. "you think it is bc of this or that, really".....UGH, yes I do I live with it every day of every year and I am also aware of flare ups.....even though you chose not to. I even posted a social media article about Holiday struggles for PtSD and one unfriended me....(yea) My struggle is my sufferer's family. He chooses them every time. I am being vulnerable, bc we have had success and he has come along way but.. guess what... sometimes IT STILL SUCKS. They are a huge portion of his diagnosis, alcoholic father, narcissistic mother and two brothers 10 yrs order who saw him as the perfect scapegoat.....I want to strangle ALL of them.....but aye, every time I try to make peace. Even though they only come around especially said brothers twice a year....only to look like the champion brothers.....makes me so sick:wtf::yuck::facepalm:.......and I sit an smile. Try to love my sufferer and focus on ALL the kids with activities as they make their male "crap" remarks.....my sufferer either hunts to get away or sits in a corner watching the whole time w/o interacting BUT NO ONE ever notices.........bc he was always invisible. MAKES ME SO MAD.....I do NOT want to do this again this year...........I chose US!!!! encouragement needed!! and much THANKS!!!:happy:

 

[Amack]

Wow, so many grammar issues....in that rant!!! sorry!!!!

 

[AngelKeeperJ]

(((Amack))):hug::hug:
BIG HUGS, and ENCOURAGEMENT coming your way!!!
I am SO SORRY that your sufferer still, on some level, hopes to be "seen." Even the most abused, still long for what isn't available! BEYOND SAD!:sorry:

I have a 16 year old grandnephew that is beginning to suffer from his mother's untreated bipolar self...my niece. :sorry:

I KNOW the pain and sorrow that is ahead for you and I GET how YOUR HEART aches, KNOWING that NOTHING will be different!

At least you know that with the children, you can be yourself (hopefully), and see the beauty and happiness through their eyes. At least until they are old enough to see the truth of the adult world...

BEST BLESSINGS AND ((( :hug: :hug: )))
AKJ

 

[EveHarrington]

:hug:

Even without PTSD, I think it's healthy for individuals to cut apron strings and make their new family a priority. Hanging on to the FOO to such a great extent makes the new partnership/family suffer. It's not a lesson everyone learns.

I'm sorry you're the one who has to deal with all of this.

 

[Beautifulmess]

Sounds like it is time for an annual holiday vacation?

Seriously, though, being out of town together can help avoid painful family gatherings and the stress that goes along with them.

Sending lots of encouragement to you all to make it through this holiday season.