General Weekends Are So Hard

[discarded]

Is it just me or do others struggle more on weekends? I find I can keep my momentum and focus going through the week with the structure of work, kids to school, trainings etc, but come the weekend I fall apart and struggle to keep my mind off my sufferer and our recent separation. I struggle to not contact him, to not reachout, to not see how he is going, because I fear that if I do we will argue again. I miss him, not the arguments, just seeing him. Space is what he asked for but it is a struggle when I am hurting so much.

 

[amethist]

Hi discarded.

Try changing your weekends to a different pattern, do different things that you would not have done before. Change the routine completely.

I did that when I separated from my fist husband, no PTSD involved, but I had to do this for myself and my then young daughters. It was hard but after while it did make a difference.

 

[discarded]

Thanks for the advice. I will certainly give it a go. I find if I keep busy I can get past the urge to make contact when I know he needs space right now.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I have ptsd and I struggle with the weekends. I am looking for things to do that keep me busy. I am trying to rebuild my life from scratch so I am at the beginning of my quest. My heart goes out to you. I think weekends can be hard on alot of people.

 

[Toria]

I find it hard too - and I know Husband does too.

From his point of view, he looses the structure of the working week and needs to find things to keep him busy to keep his mind off whatever is lurking in there. I would like to relax but find myself drawn in to his need to keep busy. I also loose the distraction of work and find that I notice his symptoms more and that makes me more stressed.

I'm with Amethyst with regards keeping yourself busy - could you volunteer with a charity? Coming up to Christmas I'm sure that a lot of people could do with an extra pair of hands.

I hope that things get better for you soon x

 

[Hashi]

I'm sorry you're missing him and hurting so much. If you've agreed on space, though, you're doing the best thing for your relationship in the longer term by not making contact right now.

Stay strong.

I hope the weekends get better for you.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Yay the weekend is over! I hope you have a great week full of things to keep you busy and occupied. I hope you are eating and sleeping good. I hope you have support and can get out and do things that give you a break. Thinking of you. Big hugs.

 

[discarded]

The weekend actually wasn't too bad. Trying to keep myself busy.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Great, you are doing really well. I am happy for you.