What do you avoid at all costs?

[TruthSeeker]

I avoid …..
1. personal failure at almost all costs and everything else on the list....I avoid as much as feasibly possible.
2. Boring responsibilities like laundry, dishes, and cleaning.
3. Washing my hair and taking a bath with soap. I hate soap.
4. I avoid conflict.....and potential triggers.
5. Sometimes going out and having fun is hard or having people over....I'll stay in bed or inside instead which isn't healthy.
6. Insider/parts conversations ……….


AND NARCISSISTS!!!! at all costs!

 

[Briar Rose]

Orthopedists,darkness, a lot of songs, talk about myself in real life, everything that could leave into a negative response from the person infront of me...

 

[Enaila]

What do you avoid at all costs?

I figured I'd ask, since in this book I am reading "OVERCOMING T...

I avoid writing as writing triggers feelings....so I guess I avoid feeling. Unfortunately to heal we need to go through the pain. UGH!

Relationships.

Nobody gets past the acquaintance level. Ever.

I so understand the feeling. It is hard to allow ourselves to be vulnerable and put back in a position where we might be hurt...again and again.

 

[Rani G2]

Avoiding dominant humans...because I want to have power.

Math...If I dont understand, I think I'm retarted

 

[recoveringfromptsd]

Being hugged or held in any fashion (my abuse involved both), taunted (that too was involved in my abuse), and homeless shelters (I was gang-r... in one)

 

[Changing4Best]

Being hugged or held in any fashion (my abuse involved both), taunted (that too was involved...

Sending warm comforting thoughts your way, hoping you see better days!

 

[Emotional girl]

I avoid being touched in any kind of way.
I avoid anyone who comes into my personal space.
I try avoid human beings as much as possible because I find it difficult to have relationships.I am scared of getting too close to people.
At the moment I am avoiding music because it is a trigger for me.

 

[T2L]

Overall... conflict (whether my own or I'm an observer)vand standing up for myself (saying "no," expressing my beliefs, or asking if I need/want something). Then there are very specific triggers such as sounds or smells I try to avoid and can for the most part because I'm so introverted and isolate myself. I can control that possibile exposure to an extent (saying that just made me have a realization. Hmmm).

I'd like to add after reading others, I guess I avoid humans and talking to people in general if I can, yet still function just enough. There are multiple reasons for that though. I also avoid being touched in any way or people invading my personal bubble. That unexpectedly happened last week and it through me into panic and flashbacks at work the rest of the day :(

 

[recoveringfromptsd]

The biggest one for me is that I avoid situational uncertainty, i have to have a hand in everything (only way I can feel safer), when I have situational uncertainty and enter a dis-associative state or emotional flashback. I cannot function in situational uncertainty. My mind enters a me vs them protective world. I also avoid trusting anyone, I go by how much a potential threat they are to me. Always expecting that eventually I will be hurt, abandoned or betrayed by everyone eventually, life proves that I do get hurt, abandoned, or betrayed eventually. It's the only constant that has certainty to it, Its a miserable way to exist.

 

[Deleted member 47384]

Public transit. Which is a shame, because I used to love long rides on the light rail through my city. I miss all the good parts of it, like meeting nice people, and getting to watch the city go by.

I wish it wasn't so dangerous.

 

[Mach123]

The highway. It's nickname here is "the distressway" for good reason. Even if I leave time, when the traffic slows and stops I get anxiety close to panic. It feels like dying.

 

[Candleflames]

I moved to a different state to get away from everything! I can ovcoccasionago back but about 4 days is my maximum. After that my symptoms are through the roof.

Dishes! I can't even count the number of times I got grabbed by my hair and dragged down for a beating beause I wasn't doing the dishes correctly. And if something broke, holy hell would unleash.

So still work to be done but I'm not living under my bed anymore! Haha!