What do you do if the person you love is your abuser?

[binchilling]

What would you do if this person was a member of your family or even your lover? What if s/he really abuses you unintentionally?

 

[Movingforward10]

A lot of us have this. All types of abuse.

My mum's abuse is mostly psychological.
I have gone limited contact. I have blocked her so she can't contact me (unless she writes a letter). And I unblock her to contact her as and when I feel like I want/need to.
This blocking her is a new thing.

Whether someone abuses you unintentionally: irrelevant. They abuse you. If they didn't want to abuse you: they would hear how it impacts you and then they would stop. The fact they don't stop means it becomes intentional. By denying your reality.

 

[Survivor3]

What would you do if this person was a member of your family or even your lover? What if s/he really abuses you unintentionally?

I would want to get away from them like I did with my dad.

 

[arfie]

people i don't love never get close enough to abuse me. ALL of my abusers are beloved pieces of my life. the rest are just store clerks whose store i don't have to visit in the first place. healthy boundaries are my preferred way of handling their abuses. in the extreme cases, vastly increased social boundaries (estrangement) is the healthiest boundary available.

forgiveness is my goal. that one is easier said than done.

 

[binchilling]

A lot of us have this. All types of abuse.

My mum's abuse is mostly psychological.
I have gone limited contact. I have blocked her so she can't contact me (unless she writes a letter). And I unblock her to contact her as and when I feel like I want/need to.
This blocking her is a new thing.

Whether someone abuses you unintentionally: irrelevant. They abuse you. If they didn't want to abuse you: they would hear how it impacts you and then they would stop. The fact they don't stop means it becomes intentional. By denying your reality.

Do u have DID due to emotional trauma?

 

[Movingforward10]

Do u have DID due to emotional trauma?

I don't have any diagnosis. But I very much doubt I have DID.
I had other trauma other than what my mum did.

Is there a reason you ask?

 

[binchilling]

I don't have any diagnosis. But I very much doubt I have DID.
I had other trauma other than what my mum did.

Is there a reason you ask?

I just want to learn emotional abuse is enough to fragmanted identites.

 

[Movingforward10]

I just want to learn emotional abuse is enough to fragmanted identites.

Have you got a DID diagnosis from emotional abuse?

 

[binchilling]

Have you got a DID diagnosis from emotional abuse?

No

 

[PlainJane]

Ditto @arfie

It's boundaries. Sometimes, it means I need to separate, and others are just pulling back to a manageable level.
It can be a bitch to understand the people we love the most for who they are and then place boundaries accordingly.

 

[Bamboo]

Whether someone abuses you unintentionally: irrelevant. They abuse you. If they didn't want to abuse you: they would hear how it impacts you and then they would stop. The fact they don't stop means it becomes intentional. By denying your reality.

This