What doesnt kill you makes you stronger?

[Fadeaway]

Fair enough, I will rephrase it and just say that for me personally, it would be a deal breaker.

 

[Rani G2]

If she is going to say it again, I will just ask her.

 

[CatInTree]

I used to be much stronger than now.

I didn't care what people thought of me (in the following my own path way).
I wasn't afraid to stand alone. I wouldn't settle for friends to avoid having to search for someone I really clicked with, and if I was the only one who thought something (ranging from "I like that movie" to "if someone's literally crying for help maybe it's because they need help").
I had my own personal project titled "doing things that are harmless but that people often feel selfconscious about".

Now I'm not dead, I'm just a shadow of my former self.

 

[Rani G2]

I have a slight aversion when it comes to heroisation. Because there lies a hesitancy to see the whole impact of something. One is willing to see the seemingly positive side of it rather than understanding that it always comes with a lot of inconsistencies. Its like wanting to simplfy. I dont know if this makes sense.

 

[Fadeaway]

Yes, it does.

 

[ladee]

If we don't come out the other side stronger, we do definitely come out wiser, with more choices... and hopefully more compassion for our self and others.

 

[Treaty]

My T has been saying this a few times.

I dont know what this is suppose to mean? Having gone through d...

I think it’s necessary to have a source of positivity and hope inside of you that makes you not want to give up. I think strength can also look like defiance.

 

[Rani G2]

I think strength can also look like defiance.

Thanks treaty,
makes me also think, if an individual needs to shift from survival to living in a society, making relationships, having resources is essential...

 

[One step at a time]

In some contexts, it can be an empowering statement, but for me, in the context of trauma, it is not useful. Trauma is not an iron supplement I would voluntarily take to make myself stronger. There are better paths to resilience and balance.

Said another way: Surviving does require strength, but it's not my favorite way of acquiring/developing it, yes?

 

[Upside Down Eagle]

I saw a meme once on social media once that went something like: what doesn’t kill you makes you into a lunatic mess with trust issues.

I could relate to that one much more. To be honest I think the saying is much more intended as a positive one-liner than a realistic description.

What hasn’t killed me has made me wiser. In the sense that I know how messed up humans can be and given a lot of insight in the human psyche (including my own). And the impossibility to understand the world through clear-cut labels.

Stronger... maybe if you get out of the shitstorm you face after not-being-killed. It’s not like surviving something magically gives you skills. I’m not sure if people without PTSD understand this.

 

[Deleted member 8714]

I found a website which explains the quote which was originally by Friedrich Nietzsche. The quote was written differently: “That which does not kill us, makes us stronger.” The website states: Studies have shown that some trauma survivors report positive changes and enhanced personal development, called post traumatic growth (PTG).

 

[Mee]

The lunatic mess thing.... that’s what I feel :). Totally.

The wisdom thing? Not so much. I knew how messed up the world was before from traumatic experience that had not given me ptsd.

I also feel stupid that knowing that i was emotionally vulnerable to the experience that finally ‘broke’ me.