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What Is On Your Mind Right This Second?

Thank you @Friday ! Well this is just it: I know almost nothing about cats- forgot the cat lovers thread, only dogs. It is illegal here to let them run free (I have no problem with that of myself, I don't mean that), but I have almost never had a cat in the yard, let alone 1-2-3 all looking alike. Squirrels, bunnies, birds, an occasional chipmunk, mouse, once a vole, (ETA and a goose, and a pair of ducks 2 years in a row 😃) but a cat, no, and never in the back yard (I've always thought because of a dog). With dogs if they are lost or run away you are frantic; I didn't know if you could let out the whole family (of cats) and they would all come home again? I can only say even my cat friend who is hugely experienced said she's never had it happen either, and thought maybe they all got out? I don't know any neighbours who have any, and granted not much for markings but same behaviour as the one my sister encountered a few blocks a way about 2 weeks ago. Usually if a dog barks +/or the hump goes up I would expect another animal to stop or engage defensively. But Idk lol. I think they looked well fed enough to say they either have a home, or someone's feeding them, or there's lots of mice (my neighbour across the street has them under his deck, the family beside him has them in their shed. I said You need a cat! ☺️)

The dog plays with birds so who knows, maybe didn't get a bad vibe to avoid lol?
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Well @Friday , mystery half-solved: bunny fur outside, a couple small bird feathers (no bodies), and a mouse in a basement safety (is-there-one-there-?) trap. Looked everywhere can't see where it got in. I never trust there is 'one'. But zero other signs atm. 🥴
Thank you.
we have refrigerators with screens and apps but what about a doggy watering system thank you
Like this one? Amazon.com

My friends have a 10 gal human water dispenser (sparklets? Arrowhead? I forget which brand) they attached to their pet bowl, in case they have to stay out of town later than they planned. But that’s straight up mechanical, push lever, voila! Rather than electronic, or internet-able.
I think I feel as an obstacle, in the way and/ or a burden because it feels like what I experienced growing up (small). Either don't approach as it will be negative (learned early, not a big deal for me as I recall, just learned) or speak up (hard to do) and I didn't seem important enough for anyone to address it or remember me if I did, their needs and wants were what they had in mind. Or don't speak up because everyone has too many problems/ too much of their own stuff to deal with, too much going on. Perhaps more a memory rather than triggered, though it feels the same.

I guess it feels just like it did at 4, and the way it is. And like whining from me. Best I can describe how I feel. I guess I feel incidental and in the way of others plans and desires, and just on my own. And still whiny to think it could be otherwise lol. I guess I or my needs don't feel worth caring about from others, which is fine tbh. They are entitled to determining their priorities and what and who matters to them, and have their own desires and needs and goals and pressures to deal with. I wish them the best.

My mom's birthday would be Sunday. She was not that way, just circumstances sometimes.
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Some therapist asked a woman what it would mean if she loved herself, and after some thought she answered it would probably be good. And he said that is the crux of it isn't it, to not be able to love yourself is because of not believing you deserve good things.
@Freddyt! Sorry to bother you but you were the person (knowing cats) who came to mind! (Although any Cat people's advice is appreciated!!) I came home tonight-motion detector was on in the back and dog away- opened the back door to check garage and there was a (large) black cat sitting about 10 feet away. Went to grab my phone (camera) and to the right came another.. and then a third! 1st one went to leave and then turned around and walked slowly to me (I stayed inside). NOT kittens- LARGE!! Know it is 'mice looking for shelter season', but haven't seen any. Large fence all the way around... What is THAT??? I like cats and worry about black ones at Halloween but did not know if these were feral? Sister saw a black one a few days ago and it ran towards her and the dog- she walked away and had bad feeling as it wasn't keeping a distance. What do you think?? We are in the city and in Canada too.
Thank you!!
Signed, Clueless about cats! 🫥👀

ETA @Freddyt , I just talked to a friend- said maybe domesticated, got out and stuck together, she thought weird it came to me though. But said they eat bunnies!! And I just said to my sister no sign of the 1-3 of them (bunnies) that I usually see in the yard! (??) 👀 She said even as a cat person that would freak her out! (?)

(And to add to it there are fairy lights in an old glass oil lamp and they were on. in the house. 👀 🤣 )
Hi, Tinyflame. I admire your concern for the black cats - this month. The shelters here, won't even let them get adopted out this month. They worry about what people might do or use them for. How sad!
The "alley" cats are probably just looking for a handout. FYI...you can look at their ear tips also. When the rescue places catch them to spray or neuter them, then return them to the "wild" (since they can't be adopted out) they will usually cut off the tip of their ear. Then people will know that they have been spayed or neutered without having to catch them.