What Is Your Understanding of Love?

[TLight]

Fin;
Your words do hit home and I can see your passion. Thank you for complimenting me on what I said and I hope I can keep my relationships, all of them, in this loving space, because I too believe that giving love is what we are here for and in the giving it serves to expand who I am and bring me closer to peace and God.

Thank for your words.

 

[fin]

That is just so beautiful TLight, you have shared so wonderfully, just soo very lovely and so very openly beautiful, thankyou. (in bigger letters than I can type THANKYOU)

You have given me hope TLight, in what you have written here. Because from what you have shared I can see that there are others out there that think the same way, that believe the same way, and also live like this. And that it can be done. Thankyou so much.... am smiling...

~fin
..and also thankyou for your compliment to me, I am glad to know that what I write is seen as passion rather than as an obsession, because it is passion and there is a very real difference. Thankyou and Bless you T.

 

[fin]

I can see better today why I find it easier to love someone else. It is always easier for me to forgive someone else than it is to forgive myself. It is easier sometimes to let go of what someone else has done to me rather than and in relation to what I do to myself.

I am thinking that this is because of low self worth and high self expectations. But I think I need to work on this and maybe try to love myself some. Or at least try to show myself the same kindness and understanding I do for others. this might be a good place to start from; kindness to myself.

Maybe if I can I will be a little less shattered when someone else breaks me down. And maybe even a little less vulnerable to it.

I am tired and my head hurts...this is truly exhausting work to undertake without a net.

 

[patrick]

I think that I have to love myself before I can love someone else, so then I have to define 'love myself' and I think that is to accept myself, I'm working on that, I think I shall get to love myself some time not too far away and then it will open up circumstances for looking at loving others. I don't think there is a short cut, it is to feel whole.
Heather

I agree that first you have to love yourself, and I'm glad to hear that you are getting there. I am just now starting to be able to tolerate myself a little bit sometimes. I can see the possibility of loving myself sometime in the future, but there is a long road to travel to get there. I have thought I loved people in the past, but in retrospect, I'm not sure it was ever truly love. Maybe some day in the future.
Pat

 

[heather q]

--I am just now starting to be able to tolerate myself a little--Pat

Hi Pat,
Your timing is great, so I'm struggling to accept without allowing myself the chance to tolerate, I shall work on tolerating this situation I'm working on, I believe I shall then be able to accept it and by then it should take the pressure off when I get to the real details.

Thank you, a very wise observation, I hadn't realized that missing step.

The 'old cart before the horse thingy'

Heather