What The Harsh Inner Critic Really Sounds Like

[BlackbirdSinging]

Everyone has a harsh inner critic. I know I definitely do. We say these horrible things to ourselves and somehow it's acceptable. When the same words are spoken to someone else it's obvious how harsh and how painful the words really are. I just watched this video and I thought I'd share it.

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[Deleted member 1860]

I'm not in the best place to watch that right now so I've bookmarked it for later, possibly MUCH later.

My inner critic comes from my mother. Last time I heard her voice, it sent me SPIRALLING! Very bad, indeed.

I'm afraid this could do the same, so I will wait and watch it later.

Thank you for posting this.

 

[Sandstone]

How convenient that the women used were actually normal to attractive. Much harder when the critical words are true.

 

[UnKnown-Self]

It wouldn't let me see the video but I get the gist.

Don Miguel Ruez calls this voice a parasite that feeds on negative thoughts and needs them to survive. The parasite will fight for its survival by encouraging and inspiring, let me rephrase that. The parasite IS that part of you that thinks negative.

True or untrue is the parasites lies. What our culture defines as attractive enough, good enough or any "enough" is the parasites lies.

The real good enough, is you right at this very moment.

Yes, I realize that sounds like so much love yourself babble and a look in the mirror tells you the Truth. Again that is the parasite spreading negativity.

It's the parasite that keeps me from riding my bike, pointing out the hills too hard to get up, how rediculous I'll look and on and on so the energy that I would use to ride is sucked up with negative energy and I feel embarrassed and ashamed which kills my motivation.
Don't misunderstand, I love to feel fit and pretty and I am realistically neither now but I have to change and do what I need to do. Once I personally feel fit and attractive, that needs to be enough and negative words or looks from someone else should not matter. Actually even approving looks or comments while nice to hear should not matter because if we depend on others to build us up, the others can tear us down.
Me personally, I just want to feel comfortable and healthy.

 

[UnKnown-Self]

What those women are saying to each other and themselves while so very true and sad, is child's play compared to when my parasite named Smug for many decades now, gets on a roll. I will not give Smug any pleasure by repeating the degradation he is capable of coming up with.
It just occurred to me that I assume Smug is an HE. I wonder if that is because Smug can be very powerful and I connect power with men....

No.... there is more to it than that because I have been around enough women who abuse their power too. Oh well, a ponder for another day.

 

[UnKnown-Self]

Funny how I was drawn back to the title of this post without realizing I posted here already.

 

[trying2movefwd]

I had this discussion in group T. It's interesting how much harder we are on our selves. I guess its because we actually believe our inner critic right or not right, we believe the negative about ourselves. It's hard to see positive when everything has been negative a majority of your life.

 

[UnKnown-Self]

@Sandstone

I know this sounds corny as hell but it is not the outer looks that dictates beauty.

Do people treat you differently? Yes they do.

But the beauty of loving yourself is ageless because you don't give a f*ck what others think or say and you have self compassion.

 

[Ronin]

A-word, @Alice.in.Wonderland.

 

[Go Hungry]

Oh yes. For me, it is what I call the Ugly Voice.. it's been with me for practically my whole life, telling me to kill myself and showing me hideous images. Trying to convince me that I am a monster. I haven't watched the video, but I think I get the idea of it. The things it says would be fighting words in any civilized setting. I wonder, how many internet trolls unleash their ugliness in response to their own internal beasts..

 

[UnKnown-Self]

@Go Hungry

I used to see images too every night especially after my sister got married and I had the room alone. I would try to sleep and witches and demons would come at me their faces zooming in like I had on a pair or those goggles some play 3D video games with. Except it was no game and I would say The Lords Prayer over and over and over. It would stop just to return until I was well into my twenties.

I just realized something.... My most dissociated years were until I was ten, up until my sister got married and moved out. Odd thought.

Now is not the time for that rabbit hole. Enough.

 

[sedna]

What the Hell did you wear that for? You are the only adult in the world without a full length mirror, idiot.

If you cant walk straight in heels at home then you cant walk in heels in an office building, dumbass.

Everyone knows you're useless with the systems, they know you're getting the students to do everything, they just feel sorry for you. Stupid.

With your parents at best you can hope no one knows your gene pool. You shouldnt have had kids.

Oh man...was this thread supposed to be therapeutic? I feel like crap now. :dead: