When Someone On The Board Goes Missing

[Lucycat]

Also some people have simply changed their username so they are still here but you might not realise it.

 

[joeylittle]

I'm not planning on leaving the board, but I think that people should always have the right to disappear, no strings attached, in mental-health communities. So many of us are easily afraid of being 'caught' - hospitalized, sectioned, misunderstood - honestly, if I knew that I'd be checked up on, I'd have never joined this place.

It's like a big peer support group; everyone is free to come and go as they choose.

But I do understand worrying - the thing to remember is that the odds are very strong they are gone by choice, not misfortune, and it can signal a good phase of healing/growth as well as signal isolation. Either way, we all have a choice.

 

[hodge]

Good points, Ms Spock and Joey. I take back my initial advocation of welfare checks.

 

[Hope4Now]

Yes it has happened a few times. Once, the person left the board but told me and we exchanged emails for a while. But then she has disappeared from that too. I think of her often, but there's nothing I can do but wish her well. Another friend just disappeared generally. I know she was going through a tough time with a spouse, but also said was feeling more able to cope with some of her symptoms.

I miss both of them. Tremendously. It is the down side of digital, anonymous relationships. The ups though (anonymity and freedom) outweigh the downs, however.

 

[deer_in_headlights]

I disappeared suddenly, in the aftermath of a very bad car crash. The injuries to my CNS were bad and trying to type at the computer is so painful I black out.

I couldn't get onto the site, or send a letter to Anthony and Nicolette, to let my beloved PTSD family know what happened, why I suddenly disappeared. I was with you all, thinking of you with deep love, and worry, everyday. The love and deep bonds remain, even in unexplained absences. You are never forgotten. You are thought of, loved and missed. It was so painful being away from you all.

It took me a long time, but with the help of some healing time, a tablet and stylus, I can be here with you.

It does happen, and all we can do is hold each other in our hearts...
:hug::hug::hug:

 

[Peach]

I only joined in May of this year, but there is someone who I was speaking with privately who did disappear under very strained circumstances. She was at rock bottom and extremely depressed, hopeless. I honestly have no idea if she is okay or if she took her life in her own hands.

Wish we could compare notes, maybe one of you knows about her? I guess I'll never know for sure. Just hope she has found a measure of peace.

 

[void]

I have a friend on the board here. She and I used to talk just about every day (PM'ing). And then she...

Yes and it is a TERRIBLE feeling of helplessness and worry.:yuck::yuck::yuck::yuck:

Fortunately, contact was restored but it sure felt awful until it was.

I hope your friend is ok.:hug:

 

[Deleted member 29920]

Yeah, one i was talking to disappeared in may but I knew her real name so I managed to find her on Facebook. She said she is okay but she was finding the site too triggering. Another one explicitly told me in a private message not to befriend her because she didn't want to live much longer and she has been gone for about three months, I think she was banned :(

 

[shimmerz]

not to befriend her because she didn't want to live much longer

This is so sad..... ^^^^

 

[Peach]

@Cj77 I think we're talking about the same person (second one). :(

 

[Deleted member 29920]

It could be, I miss her, she was expecting treatment in a few months but I don't think she could hold on any longer, I just hope and pray that she is still with us. I felt hopeless as she was so far away.

 

[Peach]

Yes, me too.