Where To Find Emergency Emotional Support.

[Fadeaway]

I don't want to be hospitalized, I just want to be comforted,but I don't know how to get that. So I started thinking about ideas of what I could do, like maybe a chaplain at a hospital.

Too many bad things have happened lately and I don't know how to cope. Spend all day running back and forth the length of my small apartment because I don't know what to do with the pain. So I just run 10 feet turn around and run back. My neighborhood isn't safe for me to run outdoors with out fearing being grabbed and hurt.

The big thing is I don't want to explain everything, I just want maybe someone to lay a hand on my shoulder and to hear the words, it is going to be ok. I crave those words so much it makes me sick. Just to hear those words spoken out loud to me. I have craved those words for so long it is like an obsession.

Being forced to endure insults by my grandmother all day I can't breath.

 

[TXbandit]

I feel for you and I don't have an answer as I am in the same boat as you. :hug:
Hang in there

 

[ButterflyBean]

I am right where you are. I have been there many times. I think your idea of a chaplain or deacon is a great place to start. Do you have a church you go to? Sometimes if you call and let them know you're in distress, they will meet you somewhere. It sounds like you have some religious background. If you are a Christian, there is a online chat service called The Hopeline that will help. Let them know exactly what you said here; that you need comfort and are not in any danger. I used to work for them. Hope this is helpful, hang in there!

 

[Fadeaway]

I hate religion with a passion, I was just thinking that I thought hospitals had someone they had that dealt with death.

 

[JEKBreatheandBelieve]

I can relate, too. I wish I could help you or point you in the right direction.

 

[Hope4Now]

I am so often in the same situation with the same need. I usually have to cook up an imaginary person who provides the comfort. I wrap up tightly in a blanket and imagine whatever comfort I need being given to me by either a person I know or one I imagine. It does help. I'm not sure it is as "healthy" as reaching out to a real human being, but that often doesn't feel very safe for me. I wish comfort for you, and the courage and strength to find what works for you.

 

[Justmehere]

I hate religion with a passion, I was just thinking that I thought hospitals had someone they had that dealt with death.

I have serious anger and issues around religion - but after my roommate committed suicide, I walked into a local hospital and asked for a chaplin about a week after his death. I was drowning in grief and pain and shock. It was one of the best conversations of my life. They didn't preach lots of answers at me - they were with me as I felt some of the shock and horror of it all. It helped. I don't know if all of them are that way, but I'm glad that one was and I would do it again myself.

 

[Sammyiam]

It's going to be ok


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Take care
Sammy

 

[Deleted member 1860]

I think many of us could have had this need filled at one point or another.

I wish I could point you in the direction of a religious figure who wouldn't be all preachy. I know it can be difficult to find such people, but I have found much comfort in my priest. We don't even get into religious topics unless I specifically ask. I know this isn't really an option for you at this point, but the possibility exists that a priest or minister could offer you support.

I hate that we need to find substitutions. Sometimes its the dog, but she's a real wiggle-worm, so most of the time she won't sit still, but she is always there to comfort me when I feel bad. A tight blanket could help....this is actually a therapeutic tool that is used in hospitals. I can't handle tight blankets, so instead my clothes are super tight, well, the ones I sleep in that is. Everything I sleep in is at least 2 sizes too small and stretchy so it hugs me. It is quite calming. Sort of like a thunder jacket but for humans. I know these aren't as good as the real thing, but maybe it could help from time to time.

 

[Wounded Scribe]

@Fadeaway, I apologize, I am unfamiliar with your situation, and available resources at this time. Is your current situation, acute, or, are you saying long term? My take away, you are saying, long term? Touch, is so important,for us. And, there's nothing more healing than a hug. If I may, have you considered, doing some light volunteering? Food banks, animal shelters, or I'll even say, long term care centers. From what I understand, and from what I've witnessed, the elderly are very good at giving out hugs and those in a long term care center, would welcome visits and friendship. Volunteering, and service, is good medicine for those of us who've been thrown into the lion's den. We've seen the worst life has to offer, and yet, we survive.

Give, and it will be given back to you. Give love to those in need of your love, and they will give it back to you. Look for those places were others have been forgotten, and don't have the ability to change their circumstances. Give them love, dignity, invest time with them, and you'll see an abundance of love and appreciation, given to you. I've seen it happen, more often, than not.

 

[Seagreen]

Is there a crisis line you can call to chat? I'm sorry, I don't know in particular which one because I'm in Australia.
It will be ok again.

 

[Intrepid]

You are going to find the solution. I remember doing the same thing, sometimes finding quick fixes, but generally suffering. Eventually I had to stop being so hard on my self. It stood in the way of other people comforting me, and me comforting myself in a healthy way. There was a lot of integration that had to take place, too. Long process. I don't want to make it sound like a cake walk. It was anything but that.