Poll Who Traumatized You

[sky dancer]

My primary abuser was my aunt who provided foster care for me. She was not alcoholic or drug addicted nor did she have any psych diagnosis.

 

[ltm6302]

my mother also is bipolar and has borderline personality disorder... sometimes i wish i was an orphan

 

[supergirl]

my mother also is bipolar and has borderline personality disorder... sometimes i wish i was an orphan

My mother has untreated BiPolar disorder and life with her was just hell growing up. It's not that much better now actually except that since I am an adult, I am in the drivers seat when it comes to dealing with her. I completely understand how you feel. I wish I did not have to deal with her. I wish she was just not around. I wish I had a healthy mother growing up or at least one who acknowledged her disorder and tried to work on it.

 

[shadow1]

Many people have traumatized me through the course of my life, but the main offender was a former supervisor of mine. He would frequently berate me in front of my co-workers, telling me that I was incompetant, lazy, etc. He had a nasty habit of constantly changing his policies and procedures just so he could confuse me about the proper way of doing things-then, he had the pleasure of writing me up when I guessed incorrectly about the way he wanted things done on that particular day. When he eventually fired me, he used all of the disciplanary memos against me, preventing me from receiving unemployment compensation. Note: During the time that I was being tormented at work, my oldest brother and grandmother were both in the process of dying slow, painful deaths from a stroke and cancer, respectively. I cared for my grandmother by myself, with no assistance from anyone. Also of Note: I was working for one of the largest funeral and cemetery providers in the US, a company that supposedly has a mission of compassion. Well, they didn't have any for me.

 

[shadow-light]

erm...

abuser 1: heroin addict with psychotic depression who I stupidly dated

abuser 2: friend of abuser 1, ex-addict who seemed otherwise normal

 

[LoveWins]

I clicked "person seemed deranged"
He was a paedophile, had other major sexual and power issues, compulsive liar, sociopath, violent and just generally a complete sicko, but none of these are actually "diagnosed" as nobody seems to care that much

 

[anglico2024]

I was attacked by a police officer friend of my moms. I did nothing wrong except tell my mother when I grew up I wanted to become a policeman. Big mistake. I was put in a choke hold and became airborne then slam dunked onto a marble desk.

 

[starshine]

All people with mental illness aren't abusive.
And if they are, it's often because they've been abused themselves.
It's a tragic pattern, but it happens.

Am just unhappy with the wording in the poll. i.e. 'deranged'. It just perpetuates common prejudiced stereotypes of mental illness. Yes, I'm diagnosed with depression [and complex PTSD.] Yes, my father probably had a mental illness, and my mum - neither were diagnosed or treated. Yes, my father abused me, but really, he didn't know what damage he was causing, he was a desperately unhappy and insecure man.
The bullies? Well. They were who they were - also desperately insecure girls/young women who fed on my vulnerability to give themselves power.

There's more, but I'll leave it at that.
I'm not answering the poll itself, because I disagree with it on personal ethical grounds.

 

[Flower]

The people who traumatized me did similar things to other people and never showed remorse or thought it was wrong. This isn't really their fault necessarily, because they just developed the moral code of their environment. Many years on, I don't know what to say, maybe they developed their own moral codes that dissuade their past behavior. Maybe not.

 

[poppy]

my dad who tried it on when i was around 4 years old, but i screamed the place down. he beat me and my brother sensless, but even now at 80 odd years he trys it on and says the beatings were necessary,,,p.s. i have given up going to see him, even if i am the only one left.
unjust imprisonment...police just doing thier job...but i fear them now.
rape with a foreigner who was in love and wanted to abduct and marry me
but the worse trauma was seeing my brother dying,, the last four hours he was in a lot of pain and tried to run away, me and mum had to hold him down, with the help of a male nurse...i had my first panic attack

 

[maven]

None of the above fit exactly.
#1 was a male babysitter I was 4
#2 wad a neighbor kid. first BJ in the second grade
#3 my brother, brother not by genetic
#4 boyfriend's best friend
5# parent's who wouldn't deal
etc etc

 

[lexie381]

I was abused by a Priest (both my twin and I) as a child but the symptoms didn't appear until after I was in an Abusive relationship as an adult, which was my first attempt to meet someone and be in a relationship. It went wrong and I ended up having flashbacks and mood swings from both traumas.