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Bongo - you sound just like me! I could have written that last post you wrote myself! Feel free to PM me if you want to chat.
After being incredibly unwell with flashbacks, anxiety etc I was put on quetiapine, an anti-psychotic which helped a lot to calm me down, level out my mood and stop the flashbacks, as well as helping sleep. I was on mitazapine in the past and rather reluctantly due to always gaining a lot of weight whilst on it agreed to go back on it.
I was on 15mg to begin with, before increasing to 30, then 45 yesterday. It is the only anti depressant I've ever found that actually works for me anf doesn't make me unwell (although last night after taking upped dose I had visual and auditory hallucinations for the first time in agggeees...)
I think it's a mix of the 2 that works well for me. Also, I've had a lot of therapy, learning grounding strategies and how to manage flashbacks when they happen.
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