Military Worst Anger Moments (As They Come To You)

[cruisingvet]

Had many anger incidents since my time in Nam... MANY. Relate to about everything said above. Just about everything and anything could set me off. I thought I was a magnet for as*holes. I stayed alone, I rode (motorcycle) alone, I isolated, no friends except a few in the VA who I was in therapy with but that was it. Even went as far as buying a place in the woods and I mean the woods of Northern New England in order to get away from everything that pissed me off. Relate to road rage quite a bit and had incidents of fights on the roads which got me in some trouble and hospitalized more than once. Big mouths could piss me off good. Like I said, anything and everything could touch my primer off. I drank, but quit in 1985 and have not indulged since. Excercised a lot, weights and ran which helped with the anger. Took a lot of VA pills which worked some but only temporary and spaced the hell out of my head. Had a good therapist (luckily) at the VA (1 on 1) who worked hard with me. I still get pissed but not as bad and take no meds anymore which I consider a positive for me. I am learning how to cope and deal with problems after 25 years. I can step back and think what is the outcome of my actions. I still avoid crowds but force myself more and more to deal with them a little at a time. I am not as hard on myself as I once was and think this and age has improved my mental outlook.

 

[John1]

I don't go to shopping malls anymore.... it used to be a build up and I would just leave. Attempt to find the closest exit. My wife was shocked the first few times.

I have just gave in and go to 24hr. grocery stores. It just makes things easier for me, no stress over shopping at 2am :)

I find myself driving into town parking outside the shop I need to go to and sitting there for 10 mins trying to build myself up to facing people then just give up and drive home, so now I pick the times off day when I think it will be less busy even then I find it hard.

 

[Nate1]

I find myself driving into town parking outside the shop I need to go to and sitting there for 10 mins trying to build myself up to facing people then just give up and drive home, so now I pick the times off day when I think it will be less busy even then I find it hard.

John,
i am almost in the same boat. When we go shopping I am just the driver now and my wife will go in by herself so that I don't have to deal with all of the people inside. Just as 3rdIDMike said about 24hr stores; I will go to them at around around 5 am because there is never anyone there and they only have a few people working.

Nate

 

[abnvet]

Mine is when I was going through my divorce. After serving in the 82nd Abn and going to Iraq 90-91 I came home to what I thought would be a good start-over with my wife. Things went from bad to worse. I ended up having a daughter -thinking that a child would improve my marriage. Reelisted for Panama and went to where I thought things would be more settled. Nope, had to send wife and daughter home to states. Still, I was stupid and bought a house -sight unseen. When purchase went through- wife filled for divorce. Delayed divorce until I returned to states and wife ended up living in house for year and a half until she was forced to sell it. Anger, anger anger all though this and yes much resentment as today I still haven't purchased a 2nd home and I'm remarried. Its difficult to explain to my wife now.....

 

[willis williams]

My divorce was later but I was gone a lot. That made the marriage last. I bought a house, new car, 4 year degree for her to find later as she said she needed to find out if she liked me or not and threw me out of my on house. I found someone that made me feel great and so the divorce started. helped her get through her masters degree she got the house my motor cycle the jeep all the furniture all the money no car payment and a masters degree salary. A lot of this would have been different if I had not distanced myself during the process I was afraid I would react baddly and she would use my children against me. She could always use the PTSD. I ended up bankrupt without a home and no money and I live were I do not want to. I live ware I can take an active roll in my two boys life. The crap thing is that she still uses my boys against me but I am a vet and this is my weight to carry.

 

[Jimmy1]

I feel for you mate.
My first ever Sergeant Major told me that if I was meant to have a wife, I would have been issued one.
Well, my first wife '&$%^&%$ $*#(', sorry too colourful to say out loud, sucked the life out of me.
Over there you have alimony, we have child support, or something like that. Well I reckon I paid for her house.

The children are the future though, and as they grow older, you have to love to hate them. lol.

Jimmy

 

[willis williams]

Yes, I love my children and I came to the conclusion that the monitary,and emotional losses in that divorce were a small price to pay. I have a 14, 8, & 1 yr. old sons and would not change a thing.

 

[Nate1]

That is got to suck not being with your kids whenever you want. I don't know what I would do with out my kids.

 

[Wagon]

One of my worst anger moments in the last years is when my wife wanted to make a budget, just to put herself at ease that we were doing ok and could maybe buy a house in the future. I freaked out. And did not remember it. I remember now, but that moment seemed like such an affront and an attack on myself. I really flipped out. Nothing left off the fence. cows over the hill and long gone.

 

[lordoss]

my worst anger moment was a few years back. I was over at the in-laws place having dinner with them and my wife & kids. Father in law said something that I thought was about the war in Iraq. I don't even remember what he said. Anyway, I went from normal to red hot anger in about 2/10ths of sweet FA. I went to leave and threatened to bury my father in law if he didn't get out of my way. I ended up leaving and going home. Later I couldn't tell my wife vaguely what he said. I got it wrong. He didn't say anything like I thought and I ended up getting angry over a mistake. The reason why this was the worst was that it still haunts me today.

That is the worst thing for me. The anger. Going from calm to "kill mode" in less time that it takes to blink is something you just can't explain to people. First thing from them is "Why are you so angry?"

One thing that really depressed me yesterday was my daughter (10 years old) came up to give me a hug. I was busy doing something and told her "not to do that". Her response was "but I didn't sneak up on you Dad!". I felt terrible. I got angry because she wanted to give me a hug when I was reading something. I mean reading and absorbing the information is really hard for me, but I got angry at my daughter because she wanted to give me a hug. I still feel about 1" tall. Also what does it say when your daughter knows not to sneak up on her Dad?

 

[willis williams]

Lordoss, when my oldest son was 2 he came in my room were I was asleep and being a sweet little boy he tried to wake me. He did not jump just lunged half way on my chest he flew about 6 ft. and I still thank god to this day he missed the studs in the wall and only hit drywall. He is 14 now and it was so tramatic that he still remembers something from 2. I have been on a don't touch me mood for about two weeks now and it always seems to be when folks want to touch you most. when I say stay out my bubble they must think im joking. Sorry to hear about your go with your daughter she will understand more when she is older. Just remember it was your head speaking not your heart she knows you love her.
TEX

 

[Nate1]

TEX,
that must of been a terrable moment. That is what scares me the most that I will filp and hurt one of my kids or the fact that all the yelling I do at them will turn them away from me when they get older. I don't want them to grow up fearing me.

Nate