General Would Like Some Advice And Support, Ldr With Girl Who Has Ptsd

[MCT91]

Now, probably one of the final things for this thread. I would presume that maybe getting her to this site or things similar might be good for her? Maybe if she could talk to people who may share similar experiences or at the least just people who both have battled PTSD and overcome it and the supporters who helped loved ones through so she could see both ends of the bridge. I would like to think that to the others out here who have experienced these unfortunate and traumatic events have found some consolation in the support from others and help from the advice of other sufferers? My heart goes out to you all because I have an idea of the pain and though I have not the actual pain my heart hurts from the cruelty of wicked people. So my respect goes to you, the ones that fight to keep yourselves, the strength you have to possess every day that not many see is a great feat and it makes you all very special to the family and partners that choose to understand and help you along the way :)

 

[Mishap]

@MCT91 @Solara was telling you many of the same things I was, just in a better way it seems. I'm on day 7 of a migraine and it's just dipped below a 9 on the pain scale so I probably wasn't as clear as I'd hoped to be.

The seizures could be psychosomatic from trauma. A friend of ours has just had hers diagnosed as such after many long years of trying to get answers. A psychiatrist would be the best person to assist in diagnosing her, if I'm not mistaken. Obviously an MD as well. It's better to get an answer than guess.

Definitely tell her about this site, or sites like this one. Maybe find a support group in her area she could attend. A list of therapists would be a good start. Sometimes we know we need to see one but the process of finding someone to call is too overwhelming. Like Solara said, it does seem your gf is in a state where she's symptomatic and needs the help of a therapist at the moment. And like I told you before, you can't be all things to her, especially when your needs aren't met. I think it would be a good idea for you to see your own counselor and discuss what you need, how to have those need met, and if you can reasonably provide what she needs. They should also have good strategies for you as a supporter of someone with PTSD. Think of it as an appointment to invest in your future together.

 

[MCT91]

I'm sorry to hear about that :( I've given it thought these past couple days. I can see points where you would be right, though I'm reluctant to bring myself through counseling again. It's just a pride thing I guess, I've always had trouble accepting help(which is why when I was younger I would never speak of my depression or suicidal thoughts) I've gotten better but I'll consider you all's advice and will try to go if nothing else to present my situation and get insight. As for her, I want to get her to be helped and I've accepted that I can't be everything, it's just I've been more to her than anyone else has tried to be so far. I'm working on my bad habits so don't take me as disrespectful or that I'm waving you off as I still have bouts of stubbornness that arise at times. All suggestions have been/are being considered. I've come to understand the gravity of her symptoms as I've seen how far they can make her go. Trust I'll do what I can to get her to seek help, as only ourselves can ultimately make that decision. She does show a lot of symptoms, well less in the past couple of months but still. The depression, suicidal ideations(one unsuccessful attempt last year and several threats), withdrawing, lashing out when hurt or in a "mood", flashbacks, at times violent sexual fantasies(that's gotten better), sudden mood swings

 

[MCT91]

*Her withdrawing got better as we got closer and now I notice it only when there is obviously something that came up and is bothering her
Mostly she functions normal(goofy, joking, sweet) but there's no denying the other parts mixed in

 

[Mishap]

@MCT91 No one "likes" to go back to counseling ;) but sometimes we need to. What's that saying? Pride goeth before the fall. There's no shame in asking for help, especially when you're seeking to better the relationship with the woman you love. So just put that right outta your head!