General Would my vet be able to protect me from an angry crowd?

[Fadeaway]

Wanting to feel protected and what you are describing you want are two very different things to me.

 

[StarChild]

Are you familiar with WingTsun? A self defence martial art invented by a woman; A petite Chinese shaolin nun. It's very popular in Germany and some other neighbouring countries. I love it! And I trained mostly with men. Tall, strong men. And it's also fun and about self-responsibility. One can even start with it at 50+ or when having a physical disability. Oh, and boys and girls do love it as well!

 

[EveHarrington]

I hate to say this, but IMHO this has nothing to do with PTSD. I think what's irksome (although unstated) is that this is being turned into a PTSD issue.

Translated-----"PTSD has turned my husband into a coward."

Nope, it doesn't work that way. Underlying personality has a LOT more to do with it than PTSD IMHO.

(I say this in light of the fact that this is the second post by the OP where she is upset about her husband defending/protecting her. Or rather lack thereof.)

 

[Never_falter2]

Maybe it is because he keeps telling me it is dangerous out there. He doesn't want me to leave the house alone after dark, tells me to avoid certain areas and he gave me a gas tracker so he can know my whereabouts.
So he tells me I am safe with him but I wonder if that is true.

@EveHarrington: I never wrote he was a coward. You are reading things I never wrote.

 

[Neverthesame]

I can tell you my experience with a situation that occurred in which I had to respond to a medical emergency where I now work.

I was an EMT. My ptsd is related to that.

What I do for employment now, has nothing to do with the medical profession in any way. This is a deliberate choice on my part. Though I certainly have wondered how I would respond to a situation that forced me back into that role.
I'm going to mention first that I agree with @EveHarrington 100% in that I also believe it is a individual thing, how one reacts to the kind of situations we fear most. More than that, I think it's probably individual to each specific situation. I don't think one can predict it. Ever.

That being said, here's what happened.
A coworker cut themselves with a box cutter knife. This was the worst injury of this type I have ever seen. He managed to sever his radial artery in a single incision, extending from the base of his thumb, ending just behind the curve of the wrist.

Ironically, he was teaching new hires how to safely use one of these knives. (I wish I was kidding. That was his last training course. Lol)
Fortunately, no.... miraculously. He managed to miss a very important tendon and nerve. All he needed was stitches and a few staples, then he made a complete recovery.

Anyways, the point...
I was the only one on staff that didn't run the other way. I took charge of the scene, got him stabilised and ready for transport when EMS arrived. I was surprised at how well I handled the whole thing. Though really I had no choice. No one else was calm, so I had to be.

Afterwards, I was a wreck. But while he was in my care, I handled it like I'd been doing it for years.
If anything like this happened again, I have no idea how I'll react to it. I don't feel any more confident in myself now than I did before that. Maybe I'll freak out and run in a circle flapping my arms. I just don't know.

That was a situation that scared the shit out of me. That's how I handled it, but not how I thought I would handle it.
So, maybe your husband will surprise you and himself, should you have to face a violent mob.
Or maybe not. I don't think it can be predicted.

That's the best I can think to tell you. Probably not helpful, but there it is.

 

[Nessa7]

I don't think that you can use how he behaves in minor situations to reach conclusions about how he would behave in a serious emergency. It sounds like what he's saying is that he knows that his emotional responses are not proportional to whatever is actually happening. Something minor causes his brain to react like he is experiencing a more significant threat. Part of what happens with PTSD is that feelings of being threatened override more rational parts of our brain. If he were to follow through on what he is feeling, he thinks that he would not be able to maintain control. I don't know that it would correlate to how he would react to a legit threat, because his brain would be telling him that he is in danger and that would be the rational reaction to what is happening.

 

[Tinyflame]

I would hopefully protect anyone, but especially who I love. But I've failed at that, too. :(

And without escalating the situation.

I feel better if I feel protected but a lot of different things contribute to that.

I say gently I think this question refers to a lack of understanding how ptsd feels like to live with each day. Including as others have said fears, triggers and reality checking.

 

[LuckiLee]

Take a self defense class to protect yourself when you're alone.

A verbal attack is not life or death. My guess is he would protect you if the situation warranted it. You seem to think he is weak because he doesn't address verbal altercations. I think he is extremely STRONG for not getting involved in something like that.

IMHO

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Yes, I want a husband who protects me in case of emergency, not one who runs for the mountains. Is that so unusual?

Yep, it is. To me at least. But, thats just me. I want my police to protect me and my husband to love me and be understanding and all sorts of stuff but protect me isnt on my radar of what I would want him to do.

I wonder if he would be able to protect me in case of emergency.

That's why we have police.

I think I might have a bit of secondary PTSD because my husband fear of crowds has infected me.

What? That's not even a thing to have.

This was a questions for the vets and I really would love to have an answers instead of people finding fault in the question.

Vets are mostly on the other site (not that we dont have vets here but the most of them are on the sister site) but what does this have to do with being a vet?

Well, I hope that I will never be a victim of violence, but I want to I am safe if it happens

Self protection classes?

 

[Neverthesame]

I'm going to have a guess at what @Never_falter was meaning about the defensive strategy, in relation to the Vater, Mutter, Kind relationship dynamic.

I don't think gender is really the base of her reasoning. I think she's more so looking at the physical build and background of specifically her husband, herself and her children.

Her husband is former military and the bigger and stronger of the two of them. Therefore it makes sense that he would be in charge of crowd control.
She is more petite and presumably faster. So it makes sense for her to focus on herding the kids together and getting them the hell out of the danger while the bigger stronger parent buys time.

@Never_falter would I be correct in thinking that if you were the big strong former military parent. Crowd control would be your job, while small petite husband escaped with the kids to safety?

 

[Tinyflame]

I think too it's a judgement call, but rational thoughts help, atm, if such a moment even occurs, ever.

I would suspect most Vets with ptsd to be OVERLY concerned with safety concerns, not underly concerned.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Her husband is former military and the bigger and stronger of the two of them. Therefore it makes sense that he would be in charge of crowd control.

@Never_falter would I be correct in thinking that if you were the big strong former military parent. Crowd control would be your job

Hmmm. It would be super stressful to think that "my job" in a marriage would be crowd control and saftey/defence. Especially since I have PTSD! And specifically have a fear of crowds/people.