It's been a little while since I've posted here. I'm wondering if I can get your insight or feedback.
My bf was diagnosed with severe ptsd in 2003. He was a career soldier with the US Special Forces. We've been together for almost 4 years ago but late summer he started to slip into a full ptsd flare up, so bad he had to move out of our house. I worked tirelessly to get him to see he needed to get into therapy and actually I told him I could not continue a relationship without him being in therapy. Well he has started to go and has had about 6 sessions and for the first time this past weekend he's started to see a light at the end of the tunnel. He says there has been a moments during the day that feels okay. Good news considering how far down the barrel he got.
There is one thing that has concerned me though, about a week ago he's mentioned to me that since he's been down this road before he remembers from past experience that when he started to feel better he would do things to try to sabotage his progress. According to him, It's like his ptsd grabs a hold of him and says to him, what are you doing, you can't feel better? He doesn't know if it'll happen again BUT wanted to forewarn me.
On the weekend, he casually tells me that he might be going overseas. I asked him what he meant and for who? He said with the US Army. Apparently he called his old boss (now he's not officially retired but not in active duty either) and asked him if he had any work for him during the holidays? He told him he'd get back to him in a couple of days and he wanted him to go to Pakistan. As he's telling me this, he's sensing that he might be sabotaging himself. Well good for him to recognize this and after talking with about how important it is to take care of himself he is not going.
BUT now he's saying he may teach during the holidays for the Cdn Military, it would be an Urban Warfare course I still do not think this is a good idea. I'm not so sure he'll talk it over with his therapist as he has to give them an answer before his next TH session. Even though he won't be in a war zone, I still believe its not a good idea. He says he's comforted by the whole military thing.
Should I just let this go or is this totally a bad idea?
C.
My bf was diagnosed with severe ptsd in 2003. He was a career soldier with the US Special Forces. We've been together for almost 4 years ago but late summer he started to slip into a full ptsd flare up, so bad he had to move out of our house. I worked tirelessly to get him to see he needed to get into therapy and actually I told him I could not continue a relationship without him being in therapy. Well he has started to go and has had about 6 sessions and for the first time this past weekend he's started to see a light at the end of the tunnel. He says there has been a moments during the day that feels okay. Good news considering how far down the barrel he got.
There is one thing that has concerned me though, about a week ago he's mentioned to me that since he's been down this road before he remembers from past experience that when he started to feel better he would do things to try to sabotage his progress. According to him, It's like his ptsd grabs a hold of him and says to him, what are you doing, you can't feel better? He doesn't know if it'll happen again BUT wanted to forewarn me.
On the weekend, he casually tells me that he might be going overseas. I asked him what he meant and for who? He said with the US Army. Apparently he called his old boss (now he's not officially retired but not in active duty either) and asked him if he had any work for him during the holidays? He told him he'd get back to him in a couple of days and he wanted him to go to Pakistan. As he's telling me this, he's sensing that he might be sabotaging himself. Well good for him to recognize this and after talking with about how important it is to take care of himself he is not going.
BUT now he's saying he may teach during the holidays for the Cdn Military, it would be an Urban Warfare course I still do not think this is a good idea. I'm not so sure he'll talk it over with his therapist as he has to give them an answer before his next TH session. Even though he won't be in a war zone, I still believe its not a good idea. He says he's comforted by the whole military thing.
Should I just let this go or is this totally a bad idea?
C.
