Relationship Communicating In Writing?

[mycatsleepsalot]

Has anyone had experiences with having difficult discussions with their sufferer through written messages? Did you genuinely solve any problems this way, with concrete results? Did you ask first if they would prefer to communicate like that or did you just send a message starting the conversation?

I'm dating a combat vet. We officially ended the relationship, on good terms, about 6 months ago. I loved him and still do but I was interpreting a lot of his actions as apathy. We never completely stopped seeing each other and recently I want to ask him about trying again with a few changes. I wonder if I should bring up the idea and make my case in a message. I hope it would be easier to give an honest answer if he has the time and solitude to write it out.

Thanks.

 

[Sweetpea76]

My sufferer tends to prefer written communication when it comes to high emotions. However, it seems like the poo can hit the fan easier that way when it comes to him interpreting my tone and intention. He tends to mind read :banghead:

 

[lostforgottensoul]

My sufferer tends to prefer written communication when it comes to high emotions.

As do I (im a sufferer); I can write a shit ton that I cant voice and so if I had a boyfriend and we just sent emails and passed notes, Id be all good lol. ;)

 

[Purplemunchkin]

I'm a supporter and I find it easier to write it out. In the early days I used to write notes to my (now) hubby.

Hubby (the one with PTSD) hates it, he has taught and encouraged me to talk about my emotions. He would often refuse to read my notes. He thinks if he writes it down it can be used against him in the future (ex police officer!).

 

[EveHarrington]

Positive notes I'd probably be ok with.

Anything remotely negative I'd probably not be ok with.