Boundries, Am I Thinking Right?

[Suzetig]

I get the needing a plan for every eventuality thing, I'm not great with uncertainty either. Given you're stuck with the situation at least for a little while are you able to find a way to accept that it's going to be difficult and that they're going to do things that trigger you etc.

I find that when I anticipate being in a difficult situation and try to fight my reaction it just makes things much worse. I end up in full flight/fight and it takes ages to settle again. If I just accept how hard it's going to be and really work on self soothing it seems to pass more easily. It's different to just giving in, in that you're recognising your boundaries are being pushed but you choose to accept that's how it is for now. Might help take some of the sting out?

 

[lostforgottensoul]

I just accept how hard it's going to be and really work on self soothing it seems to pass more easily. It's different to just giving in, in that you're recognising your boundaries are being pushed but you choose to accept that's how it is for now. Might help take some of the sting out?

Totally. I had a few self soothing things working a bit but ive let them slip. Maybe a good time to dive back into my DBT workbook?

Im currently working on acceptance with my therapist. My dad changed it up so i have to accept more and work through a new dynamic. The thing we just dont talk about seemed to be working. I think my mistake here was not getting up to my bedroom where i couldnt hear the convo.

My step mom has a cell so im not trying to tell them not to comunicate with them at all. It just hit a trigger is all. Self soothing and other DBT things would def help.

I feel so lost without my therapist. Wont see him for a week and a half. I feel rather all over the place.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

My step mom accidently told me that my brother showed my dad some "old folks home" (no offense intended) to live in up North. I about freaked as that sort of mentally threw me in my worst terror.

Then my step mom, doing her fighting sleep shit, falls asleep at the computer, nodding off outside and forgot ahe left the stove on with a pan with nothing in it while she's nodding outside on the porch. And if i didnt stay awake til 3am i wouldnt of known and she could have burned this entire building up. Likely not as the pan was empty but who knows. And then the PC is like forcing a restore because she clicked on something and she's like freaking out. I shut it down and boot it up and up comes win 7. And i said, rather irritated sounding "it booted up fine for me" and now she's in there talking to my dad about it being better to live up there than with me.

Im still mentally freaking out but ive made it before. Not with a dog or chronic pain but im a pro at getting what's needed done and very good at budgeting. Do i take advantage of this and let them move themselves out the door?

I still have no idea how id make it alone or how id ever be able to allow a stranger into my home as a roommate...

Ugh! I did tell them to go but also told them to take my dog as i cant leave him alone for as long as id need to stay at work to make it.