Avoiding Making Friends

[Rani G2]

Celebrate whatever joy you can squeeze out of life. I have to stop looking just as what I DON'T have.

I think the same way...thanks for bringing it to the point.

 

[Dvsurvior]

For me yes very much but it's more the trust part that effects me. My bff growing up had sex with a ex many years ago so ever since then I would have friends but never really trust them especially when I found out that they lied I cut them out of my life. As you I feel very greatful for my husband he was my best friend first and then things changed between us. I have felt so much hurt and pain in my life I won't allow anybody in who I think might hurt me again I recently lost a friend but she would lie about everything so I just got rid of her plus some things she'd say didn't make sense and I started to think she lied about everything to get attention. What you feel is normal the only people I want/need in my life are my husband and our child and some close family

 

[EveHarrington]

Exactly! When I heard that friends apparently make demands, and are 'high maintenance', and that they s...

Exactly! I'd also like to know what kinds of demands are made.

Then again you've gotta remember that there are people who will let others walk all over them because they can't bear the thought of being alone.

 

[shimmerz]

Much of the interaction I had during this last trauma 10 years ago had a heavy involvement of friends. Friends were had to pick sides, friends who were put out because of my situation, friends who couldn't believe what was happening.

I am recognizing more and more that I feel the need to not allow people to get close to me because I will ultimately hurt them because of the situations I feel I put them into.

Also, I have been working on this PTSD thing for a decade now. Immersed in it. I have no idea about current politics, movies, books, you know, things that people just 'chat' about.

 

[Pencil]

I have no idea about current politics, movies, books, you know, things that people just 'chat' about.

I also don't know how to just be. I worry about how I am perceived: Do i fit in? Do I have annoying habits? Am I boring? Do i talk too much/too little. Do I try too hard/not enough. How do people just relax and be in each others' company?