Not allowing you to have freedom of movement with your child and breaking your property is a form of very serious abuse. All of this behavior is at least criminal stalking (and yes it's possible to stalk your own spouse) if not much worse.
You above a right to be able to have a phone without a freaking gps monitor in it.
Has he told you what he will do if you don't comply with this? I assume he puts on these trackers without your permission? (It really doesn't much matter, this is horribly wrong either way.)
And it's not PTSD. I mean maybe he had that as well, but this isn't PTSD behavior not would that make any of this ok if it was PTSD.
Please contact a local women's shelter ASAP for some support on this. This is very serious abuse and manipulative behavior on his part. This is a very serious situation. The women's shelter or safe house can give guidance and support on how to handle situations like this (even when a person is not being directly physically hit - and you didn't say either way if that was occurring) and they can do it in ways where he won't likely know and they can protect you if he does find out and gets upset about it.
They are trained to handle people acting just like he is. This is stuff they have means to handle that can help everyone involved.
If you don't feel free to leave your home at any point in time ti get help or do what you need or want to do, you can call 911 or at least a non-emergency dispatch number. You don't have to tell him you are doing this. When you call the police, tell them you want pizza delivered and give them your address, and ask them to please deliver it quickly, and they will most likely understand and come to help without you saying out loud what is happening.
If you can't take the god trackers off, then you can also make a plan to leave the house when he is gone and go to the woman shelter and tell them you have the gps tracker and they will handle it from there. You are not the first nor the last who has been put through something horrible and invasive like that, and they can help with that. Even if he somehow ends up following you there.
If you stay in your house simply because he gets so upset --- with the patten of him breaking things and acting so paranoid and your belief you are not allowed to leave your own home for any reason, including your child going out to play, that creates all the elements for this being a criminal act on his part. Still a very serious situation needing outside support.
Please still consider going to therapy, and get support for you, along with steps to get out of this situation. ASAP. Even if he won't go. Again, if he won't allow it and you have no freedom of movement to do this, or you get afraid of safety of you or your property if you do this, get help from this women's shelter and or 911. This isn't because something is wrong with you, but because this is a very serious situation that any person in your shoes would need outside intervention and help to navigate.
You have a right to get any support or help you need to handle this, even if he doesn't agree or like it.
As far as PTSD, it's actually a bit besides the point. He may have PTSD but ehat you describe is not likely PTSD behavior, --- and frankly, his behaviors could cause PTSD in you and/or your child down the road. That's the path this is on.
This is hella awful behavior on his part and seems like one of several other very concerning mental health disorders, but none of us, not even him, can diagnosis ...and most of all, NO diagnosis makes this kind of behavior ok. It's wrong and abusive and it's ***healthy*** that you don't want to keep living like this. That's a good instinct.
Boundary setting is done to put limits on what you will allow into your life, not so much to change the other person. For example, you can "set a parameter" that if he continues to break stuff, you will do xyz. Then if he breaks stuff, do it. You follow through with how you will change your life to not let the behavior continue. Then he knows is not ok...
But in this case, with this level of aggressive jealous obsessive paranoia and possible/apparent delusional thinking, this situation needs some trained professionals to get involved ASAP to help guide you through any proactive boundary setting or leaving of the relationship because his behavior could instantly escalate into greater danger and problems than are already present.
I don't mean to scare you, but I hope to emphasize how much you need to get outside support because of how bad things already are right now.
Will they lock him up or drug him up? That's between him and he professionals to navigate. Not up to you.
It's not usually possible to talk someone out of this level of delusional paranoia, especially when you are the person he is obsessing over.
If he controls all the money for your household, don't let that hold you back. There are options to help women get on their feet coming out of situations like this and get into free counseling and etc. it won't be easy but it will be worth it. This situation is a one way ticket to no place good unless some drastic changes are made that will require some outside help.
But it can get much better than it is.
Right now, this is not only too much for any one person to handle, it's not good for you to continue to try to handle it alone. Nothing he does is your fault, but trying to do this alone enables him to stay stuck and continue to get worse.
I'm so sorry you are going through this. Please continue reaching out for help. Things can get much better for you. Your gut instinct that this is beyond you and beyond PTSD is spot on. Reach out to the trained professionals in your community, if not for your sake (which is uber important), do it for the sake of your child. Please. There are possible devastating effects his could all have on your child, and you seem like an amazing mom to endure all of this with your child. Take the next step and get some help so you and your child can have he full life you deserve to have.
