Tried Reaching Out.

[Rey324]

I tried reaching out to a warmline ( its a peer mental health support phone line) because I am hitting an anniversary of something triggering. The woman I spoke to from the line was beyond rude. She told me isolation is my fault and not a crisis and that I choose to isolate..... (GRRRR) I told her she doesnt know anything about me or my background to say something ignorant as that. She hung up on me. That really hurt because I don't choose to live this way - a lot of what happened in the past has shaped me this way. That was straight up some BS!!!!!!

 

[Rani G2]

@Rey324

She told me isolation is my fault and not a crisis and that I choose to isolate..... (GRRRR) I told her she doesnt know anything about me or my background to say something ignorant as that.

You got the guts to make your situation clear to her. You stood up, and didnt say “well yeah you are right“. Isolation is not a weakness, its your/our coping mechanism. I would go further and even say, that you have realised that you need “time out“ to go within, understand where you stand at, how you feel and so on.

 

[ms spock]

Crisis lines are a mixed bag. I would certainly give them feedback about how unhelpful that woman was - but I wouldn't let that stop you from reaching out through a crisis line - in Australia we have life line and it is a mixed bag you get what everyone calls "The God Botherers" who try to shove some type of religion down your throat. You say thanks for your help, hang up and ring again. Don't engage with the unhelpful people or give them your headspace (can't do that often myself - but everyone says to me - so I figure that could be handy advice one day. ;) ) We have the suicidecallbackservice and they are pretty good. I had one guy who was an arsehole once but all the rest - varying levels of quality but mostly quite high.

Reaching out is not a one time thing! (I know, I know - all that effort and you are meant to do it AGAIN?) Reaching out is not a one time thing - it is a process of growing in attachment to others - good luck with that - I have a severe attachment disorder so I am challenged in this area.

So sorry to read she was so ignorant and not helpful for you. There are other crisis line workers and other crisis lines - you might have to give a it a few goes before you find a service that clicks with you.

 

[Iamsensative]

You did the right thing, it amazes me that people volunteer for support lines and are judgemental. Keep reaching out dont stop, rrach out to us and again to the helpline. You will get someone else who is more supportive. Its scary when your hitting an anniversary of something devestating, it may not feel like it. That was then, this is now, it happened and we cant change it. We just have to find away through, dont ever think you are alone. We are all struggling with you and understand. Hold on, sending loving thoughts to you.

 

[Ronin]

If anything, she'd shown you she has no business being a crisis line worker, though that is no reflection on you.

& I'm glad you're not letting her bullshit drag you down & even came to refer about it here.

 

[Rey324]

I called the place that runs and funds the phone line. I feel like I got no where with them. The supervisor said the worker didn't understand the term "isolated" I was like that is why people call that line the foundation of what it stands for. The supervisor passed the buck. Whatever just another closed door as far as support via phone. They have another phone line where I live but can't call that one either. That turned into a bigger mess that I should have reported. I called there for like 2yrs and one of the girls there liked me (yes I am gay) she was familiar with my struggles and we met last year. She was buying me these elaborate gifts Michael Kors watche- that cost a few hundred - you don't give that tojust a friends. As much as I liked that watch I did the right thing and returned it. Few months later she flips up on me and says she can't deal with my issues they are too much and tiring (not like she didnt know)she was mad I would never got out and do stuff so we stopped talking. Few months earlier I found a EMDR therapist and before things blew up bet me and that girl I had gave her the therapists # bc well we shared similar issues. After everything ended I was anxious I would run into her at the therapist ofc. I asked could see find someone else this was making me anxious. She gave me hard time - I tried to tell that therapist what happened with that woman and why I stopped going and the therapist didn't help either so I left. Thats what these damn talk lines have been like for me just a mess.

 

[ms spock]

You have had a rough time with professionals with no boundaries. That is really very poor behaviour on that woman's part.

 

[Freedomfighter]

I tried reaching out to a warmline ( its a peer mental health support phone line) because I am hitting a...

Can you report such an agency for obvious harassment? Because again this is something I experienced too. A long time ago I reached out for help because someone stalked me...... the persons responsible for stopping the behavior decided to do nothing and to this day ruthlessly attempt to disprove the facts of this criminal case.

When you prevent the wrong people from getting into your life and you are reaching out to people that understand you, like us here in these forums, then you are actually not isolating. You are simply choosing who you want to communicate with, which is your right.

I am together with people everyday who will attempt to disprove the facts of my criminal case, so why the heck would I ever let any of those into my life?
I don't think you are isolating when you are simply choosing who you want to talk to.

By the way: a little insight..... Since I am being stalked I have noticed that every time I reach out to the people of my choosing the stalkers go nuts, because I am not letting them into my life. They go absolutely nuts over stuff like that....

You are talking to us, we understand what PTSD is really about and we don't judge someone who is truly ill.