Childhood Mother Unaccepting Of My Ptsd

[Lynn2223]

I have recently been diagnosed with delayed onset ptsd after having symptoms of it for 2 years because of child abuse from my father and neglect from my mother (who are now divorced) when I was young.
My mother is unaccepting of the fact I have ptsd and the only two people who know are her and my elder sister who suffers from maladaptive daydreaming.
My mother usually tells my father of any health concerns we face, but not this. She's told him of my brothers anger issues and my sisters problems but she was convinced that it wasn't I had ptsd and that I was overreacting when I spoke to her of my suspicions.
She was absolutely baffled by the psychiatrist who diagnosed me and refused to speak much after it as if I'd done something wrong to her.
Just a few weeks ago I had to fill in a medical form for an oversees school trip and it asked of any emotional or behavioral disorders, when I put in ptsd my mother became furious complaining about how ungrateful and dramatic we were.
She refuses to speak to me about it even though she should acknowledge she is one of the roots of this problem and even took into her hands to throw away the prescription the doctor gave me to get sleeping medicine for my nightmares.
It's been nearly a month and nothing has changed. Please help

 

[PointlessExistence]

It's as if you're getting abused all over again. It's one thing for a parent to cause the condition in the first place, but then most of them will compound it by denying it or making you feel it's your fault or that you're being overly dramatic. You'll find no comfort nor peace of mind from your mother. The sooner you accept that, the better off you'll be. Learning that you don't need her acceptance is more than half the battle.

So I wouldn't mention it to her again and would try to keep it as hidden as possible from her. Tell your therapist how she's acted. Maybe he can give you bogus paperwork with a more mundane diagnosis that you can show her. You can tell her she was right, and that your diagnosis has changed. Smile to her face but know all the while that she's wrong and your right. It's not that you'll be giving in to her or that you'll be being a coward. You'll be combatting a denier in the only way possible. Kill her with kindness and then get the hell away from her. If you need her for money, shelter, etc., and can't break free, at least try to distance yourself emotionally as much as possible. Use her for the tangible things you need, but stop recognizing her as anything more than a necessary evil.

 

[GenerousMoon]

I have recently been diagnosed with delayed onset ptsd after having symptoms of it for 2 years because...

@Lynn2223 usually the abuser will not accept any reponsibility. I too was physically abused as a child first my birth parents. Then emotional abused my the parents that raised me & sexually abused by my brother, neighbors, & uncle. Not one person took responsibility for their actions. I had to distance myself from them. Now, i am working on me. Sometimes you just have to focus on yourself to get things done. My birth mother refuses admit anything. How can she when there is proof through the courts & witnesses. I never received an explanation or an apology. I refuse to talk to her or have anything to with her. Maybe after my therapy I can talk to her, that is a big maybe. Yes, i was officially diagnosed with cptsd in september.

 

[Freedomfighter]

I have recently been diagnosed with delayed onset ptsd after having symptoms of it for 2 years because...

O.K. now I have absolutely no sympathy for people who actually attempt to deny a patient that there is a serious illness that they have to face and PTSD is unquestionably a disease that will be with us our whole life. So, if I sense any type of such behavior towards myself, which includes the measly attempts of an abuser that states he or she has no knowledge of my struggle with PTSD, WHILE at the same time knowingly abuses me with the knowledge that he or she will worsen my PTSD, well that person will not get to see me or hear me much and I will do anything and everything to stay out of the path of such a monster.

Furthermore, the more I am dealing with this illness the more it is apparent that PTSD is very physical, the ripped wires in the brain just dangling there with hopes of some day of being repaired again. My PTSD was caused by predators who reached into my brain and ripped those wires with full intent. Therefore I intensively hate any stranger that has no business within my private life that either denies or attempts to describe or attempts to help with questionable intent. That hate is so intense I am perfectly able to physically attack such person and my anger would be so intense that I would and probably could easily step beyond that fine line.

Just today I noticed that some dangling wires were repaired. For the first time I physically followed some very simple computer instructions which led me to the desired outcome of accomplishing a very easy task, while at the same time realizing that I had not been capable of doing so for years. That astonished me and it made me realize that there is indeed a pile of rubble in my brain somewhere.