How To Make Your Self Unpopular

[Ronin]

@anonymous, perhaps you better consider people relax differently.

What to one may seem as pointless talking is another person's coping mechanism (for, gasp, PTSD or severe ongoing trauma or any intersection of.). Just because you fail to see it for what it is does not make it less valid, or those people less concerned for well being of others.

Sorry for thread-jacking. I just really don't have the patience for people hiding behind anon / masks of any sort to trash other people. Pointing fingers and then going whole 'I didn't name' is hurtful trolling.

 

[Bloomy]

Will think and respond to comments later as I need to think and process.

The anonymous who are you to say how another person deals with trauma and ptsd? Personally I actually dont have a lot of clue as to how it affect me - and so? Im dealing with it. As @Ronin says yu are not even brave enough to be here uncovered.

 

[anonymous]

I'm not trolling.

I posted as anon because I myself am not liked here and had something to say.

Your response echoes what I have felt all along. That this place is exclusionary and people have their popular groups. If you don't fit in they essentially black ball you and want you gone.

 

[Bloomy]

Anonymos - so what if people have their click here? Why should I care? Im in this for me and my healing. I learn thing through post I read here. I learn by making post like this. If others want to party so?

Ive written many post about fitting in, but you sure ush people away. Your hijacking my thread so no more words from you here.

Thanks.

 

[Ronin]

& @Bloomy, and you're damned good at establishing boundaries and wished for code of conduct.

I think you'll do with that event just fine, and larger socializing, if right now isn't the right time for it. ;)

 

[anonymous]

I am free to post here. I'm not pushing people away. I see my exclusionary statement was right on the money though. I'm not sure why you want to silence people when you don't agree with what they say? I stated my views and that was all. This is how I personally see the forum running. Nothing less and nothing more.

 

[UnKnown-Self]

Anonymous:

Unfortunately the possibility is very high you do not understand because you are not far enough in your healing. Sadder even more is it might be you are stuck and too scared to move forward. You are not to blame for not believing something you've never known. You are responsible for petty, childish acts and your post is the perfect example.
Awareness of self, even a short flash, is not only a "sign" of healing as becoming into awareness as an act. In those self-aware flashes, one is washed over with such a good feeling.... It's echo whispers what becomes a goal.

I want to feel that as much as possible. Others seek that light. Some of us here are at relatable stages. We venture out and pull back in. When the shit gets too deep we usually not only hijack a thread, we emotionally vomit all over it. Some disappear or take a break and come back, some have been here many many years. Not because they are stuck but because being here becomes part of management.
I don't know if you have a diary but they help and being a premium member *knuckle bump!*
You can have a private diary. One more thing.... If you need more feedback, ask... If you don't understand or feel misunderstood, just say so and think about why.

Bloomy: I apologize for hijacking your thread but I thought the real message belonged here.

 

[aut555]

Will think and respond to comments later as I need to think and process.

The anonymous who are you to...

Think you handle that so well and diplomatic. Think that says a lot about you. People who stand up for themselves and who are strong don't always have busloads of friends. If you constantly please, and say yes, then you too can have many useless friends. Sorry that you don't see yourself as popular. But l wanted to read your posts after seeing your avatar pic. In some places l have been extremely popular, (foreign countries, certain jobs), other days l am not. Sorry those people did not invite you. If you are dealing with a mob mentality of people dissing you, you need to let it go and not let it take over life. Just saying......

 

[anonymous]

You're pretty much wrong on all counts. You've made many assumptions which are completely false. You feel free to comment about me yet everyone wants to silence me? I never said anything but this forum echoes real life. Maybe the bigger question is why are people getting so defensive over one simple observation that doesn't necessarily apply to them? This is how I see things. I'm not sure why so many people are quick to tell me that my experience is flat out wrong? I no longer post because I fear people here. I don't have friends here and don't get support like other people do. I've tried to put myself out there in the past but sadly I don't get much in the way of responses. It's scary.

 

[aut555]

I'm not trolling.

I posted as anon because I myself am not liked here and had something to say....

Sorry that you feel that way. I feel this is true anywhere you go in life pretty much. Also, it happens for many different reasons,social economic factors, politics, nepotism, corruption, being older, this list goes on and on. So welcome to this forum, your thoughts are validated, we are all connected here.

 

[UnKnown-Self]

I'm not sure who you are talking to anonymous. But I was not trying silence you or assume anything.
I was trying to be encouraging. Over and Out of the Game.

Alice

 

[Suzetig]

There are people here who post problems constantly but I couldn't say what their trauma is or symptoms they experience because they never write about PTSD or its effect on their life. (Maybe almost never? I stopped reading them awhile ago when I realized they aren't here to solve PTSD related issues.)

I think it's fair comment to say some people aren't here to resolve their PTSD issues on the site, some folk are working on that elsewhere and come here to be around people who "get it". That's a valid use of this space.

Others do use the space to actively work on their PTSD, and for some I know it's their main place for doing so either by choice or because access to appropriate care or therapy is limited by geography, finances or other practicalities. That's a valid use of this place too. Different people need and want different things from this place and happily the site is big enough to accommodate those different needs to some degree.

PTSD can make it very hard to find a place where we fit, though, and to feel like we fit there. I know how I see and experience myself is sometimes very different to how others experience me - generally folk experience me in a more positive way than I do myself. That means I spend a lot of time worrying that people don't like me, when they do or thinking I've pissed someone off, when I haven't or that I'm being slighted, when I'm not.

I wonder if that might be what happens to you @Bloomy, that you see things in yourself and think other people must see them too and want to pull back? For me it comes from a place of self hatred that leaves me feeling everyone else must hate me too, or that they would hate me if they knew what I know about me. I wonder if thinking about it as yet another "gift" courtesy of PTSD might help you find a way through it?