What Have You Done To Get Outside Socially?

[Changing4Best]

I go out to the local Senior Center most weekdays, I have friends there. I really enjoy it and it has become a big part of my life. They serve lunch, so it is a nice thing to do for many reasons. They also have health lectures once a week or so. They even had one on PTSD and Anxiety not long ago!

I also belong to a church and I go every Sunday to the church service, but I also go to our fellowship meals we have every Thursday evening and sometimes after church on Sundays.

Then, there is my weekly errand run. I go to the bank, the Post Office, the grocery, the Drug Store and maybe the Dollar Store if I need something. There is a department store too. Then once in awhile, I get to the HUGE Department Store, but I try only to do that once a month. Oh, and we cannot forget the pet store, for guinea pig supplies and fish tank things.... I try to chat with the check-out people or the bank tellers or whoever.

I also attend an Overeaters Anonymous meeting when I can get a ride there.

Then, sometimes, I just go out for a walk around the block. It is nice to run into folks and chat for a moment.

So what do you do to get out of the house and join the human race? I'm not talking about anything online or on the phone, I mean in person kinds of things.

 

[shimmerz]

lol. In.my.dreams.

No disrespect meant by the lol. I am just struggling so much with this.

 

[Eagle3]

I attend Aikido classes once a week. I'd go more often, but can't really afford it. My therapist teaches the classes, so he says my session fee covers one class a week. When I'm working again, I'll go more often. Also, on Friday nights I go to my best friend's house for dinner with her and her family. That's my weekly Jewish tradition fix since I can't get to synagogue right now.

 

[Codladh]

I can just about manage the basics (shop,doctors, kids school stuff) everything else is so hard. I do push myself to bring the kids places like playgrounds or cinema but I put so much energy in smiling and pretending I'm OK, that I end up very tired and drag myself through the rest of the day.
My anxiety is normally very high after doing any of these things so I never feel like socialising myself . .....but who knows???maybe one day

 

[Ronin]

I meet with people I can see once in quart of a year without being fed up with them.

Been limiting social meets that aren't necessary to a minimum because those people and me just don't mesh, and I really am not interested in being dumbed down more than I am already.

Some half a year ago I was training with archers but right now there's too many other things going on I really prefer solitude & tending to who's worth my time, which isn't anybody countryside.

Working at renewing relations with people out of the country I haven't talked with & seen in a long time, though. Very hopeful and rather pleased about that part of socializing.

 

[Gadgie]

I can go the stores now and do my shopping, which is a vast improvement from a few months ago, when I was too scared to go the corner shop!

My confidence has come a long way since then, and that's without any therapist or other help, my main source of help has been been from the folk on this site.

I still get anxiety a and panic attacks, like when I find myself trapped in an isle,X when folk block both ends, and the odd one when I'm out and snot, but I find it easier to control them now.

 

[Gs172003]

I work, I go to the Y ( I work out alone) and that's the extent of social. I hike with hubby and that's literally all we do.

 

[Changing4Best]

lol. In.my.dreams.

No disrespect meant by the lol. I am just struggling so much with this.

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To struggle with it is better than not doing it at all. Give yourself credit for what little you do, do, and pat yourself on the back too. I know it is hard, but we have to start somewhere!

 

[Changing4Best]

I can just about manage the basics (shop,doctors, kids school stuff) everything else is so hard. I do p...

I'd not worry about smiling and trying to make it look like everything is OK. Chances are that others are uncomfortable and trying their hardest too. Focus on listening and adding your 2 cents into the conversations if you can, rather than putting your energies into things that are not real.

 

[Friday]

<rueful> Well.... My answer was pretty damn depressing... Until I remembered; Oh wait. That's right. I'm isolating. :P

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Not a lot & too much, at present.

My self control just isn't too hot right now. Even on here has been difficult, for awhile. IRL I see my son, and I meet up with someone for about half an hour once a month. Even my moving around the city is drastically curtailed. The less I'm around people, at the moment, the better. If I didn't have my son to look after this is one of those times when I'd be going back-country for a few weeks/months.

 

[Gs172003]

<rueful> Well.... My answer was pretty damn depressing... Until I remembered; Oh wait. That's right. I'm...

Oooooh back country sounds amazing.

Have you thought about home steading?

( I probably shouldn't encourage you)

 

[Changing4Best]

I'm home today, although I would normally be out, because I am sick with smoke inhalation from the forest fires near here and probably also have an upper respiratory infection. I am eating small meals frequently, drinking a lot of fluids and in general resting. I miss church, but it will be there next week, when hopefully I am feeling better.

None the less, I encourage all of you to get outside, even if it is only to enjoy the weather and the scenery!