sun seeker
Diamond Member
When the depression is so heavy it feels like the weight of the world is pulling you down... what gives you the strength to get up and get going?
-
We are a multilingual website again. Read the notice about this.
-
Understand AI use at MyPTSD: all AI use is explained in our AI help page. AI use is by choice here. It exists if you want it, but does nothing unless you choose to use it.
What Gets You Out Of Bed?
- Post starter sun seeker
- Start date
- Status
expectingbetter
Diamond Member
My therapist who is amazing and who believes in me that I can heal!
- Post starter
- #6
sun seeker
Diamond Member
So far, I'm seeing two themes: other people believing in us, and being needed.
I have both of those. And I actually do get out of bed except on the worst days. But sometimes, it is a monumental effort. I wish there were a way to make it easier. Like a sense of purpose, I guess.
@CrowFeather, it sounds like you are having a really hard time. Sorry to hear that.
I have both of those. And I actually do get out of bed except on the worst days. But sometimes, it is a monumental effort. I wish there were a way to make it easier. Like a sense of purpose, I guess.
@CrowFeather, it sounds like you are having a really hard time. Sorry to hear that.
digger
Sponsor
My dog.
expectingbetter
Diamond Member
Exactly! But I see my life like there is no any purpose left currently :(
I wish it became easier too!!!
D
Deleted member 37868
Just simple things, maybe there's a coffee I want to try, or food, something that forces me to get showered and ready because I have to leave the house. If you feel like that I here you, I know what it feels like, idk for me that's the most important thing sometimes, just to be understood. I wish I could hug you.
barefoot
Diamond Member
Having two cats to look after and who like my company - so I would feel guilty about not spending time with them.
Sometimes - guilt about knowing my partner is out working so hard while I stay at home and currently earn very little money.
Sometimes - work commitments.
Sometimes - the knowledge (from experience) that, although staying in bed all day feels like the one thing I so desperately want to do, I won't feel any better for it. It will actually make me feel worse. So, telling myself that - and giving myself permission so that, even if all I do is sit and watch TV or play with the cats or do some colouring, that is still better for me than laying in bed all day. And sometimes laying in bed all day can seem like I'm feeling better but I'm actually just numbing out and feeling nothing. And feeling nothing isn't really really better, in my book.
Sometimes it's just a determination from somewhere deep within that I won't be beaten and broken and have my life become nothing.
Often, yes, it's finding a sense of purpose, somewhere, somehow, in some way. Whether that's that the cats need me, or that I won't let my partner be working this hard and I'm going to just give in, or that I refuse to be crushed or that I will go for a short walk on a chilly but sunny December morning or that I will do some colouring to try to calm my mind...purpose can just be a conscious choice and commitment to do something - it doesn't have to be the huge issue of life purpose. Finding your life purpose when it doesn't feel you have one can be a pretty overwhelming task. Breaking it down to finding some kind of purpose for today/this next hour can be helpful for me.
I'm sorry you're having a tough time with this. I was only having this conversation with my therapist a few weeks ago. I said that it was so hard to get out of bed in the mornings and that all I wanted to do was stay in bed all day. And she said 'But you are getting out of bed every day...and that's good." I hadn't really thought about that - the fact that I was doing it was kind of passing me by because I was so focused on how hard it was/that I was so tempted to not do it. So, perhaps we all need to congratulate ourselves and each other more for pushing through and getting up. Power to us for that! (Which isn't to say, however, that we should berate ourselves for the times we don't do that!) And I agree with you - it is exhausting.
So, perhaps, ultimately what gets me out of bed each day is a powerful stubbornness that just keeps making me keep on keeping on, even when I want to just collapse in a heap under the duvet.
Gentle hugs to you, if that's ok. I'm sorry you - and so many of us - are struggling with this.
Sometimes - guilt about knowing my partner is out working so hard while I stay at home and currently earn very little money.
Sometimes - work commitments.
Sometimes - the knowledge (from experience) that, although staying in bed all day feels like the one thing I so desperately want to do, I won't feel any better for it. It will actually make me feel worse. So, telling myself that - and giving myself permission so that, even if all I do is sit and watch TV or play with the cats or do some colouring, that is still better for me than laying in bed all day. And sometimes laying in bed all day can seem like I'm feeling better but I'm actually just numbing out and feeling nothing. And feeling nothing isn't really really better, in my book.
Sometimes it's just a determination from somewhere deep within that I won't be beaten and broken and have my life become nothing.
Often, yes, it's finding a sense of purpose, somewhere, somehow, in some way. Whether that's that the cats need me, or that I won't let my partner be working this hard and I'm going to just give in, or that I refuse to be crushed or that I will go for a short walk on a chilly but sunny December morning or that I will do some colouring to try to calm my mind...purpose can just be a conscious choice and commitment to do something - it doesn't have to be the huge issue of life purpose. Finding your life purpose when it doesn't feel you have one can be a pretty overwhelming task. Breaking it down to finding some kind of purpose for today/this next hour can be helpful for me.
I'm sorry you're having a tough time with this. I was only having this conversation with my therapist a few weeks ago. I said that it was so hard to get out of bed in the mornings and that all I wanted to do was stay in bed all day. And she said 'But you are getting out of bed every day...and that's good." I hadn't really thought about that - the fact that I was doing it was kind of passing me by because I was so focused on how hard it was/that I was so tempted to not do it. So, perhaps we all need to congratulate ourselves and each other more for pushing through and getting up. Power to us for that! (Which isn't to say, however, that we should berate ourselves for the times we don't do that!) And I agree with you - it is exhausting.
So, perhaps, ultimately what gets me out of bed each day is a powerful stubbornness that just keeps making me keep on keeping on, even when I want to just collapse in a heap under the duvet.
Gentle hugs to you, if that's ok. I'm sorry you - and so many of us - are struggling with this.
Friday
Sponsor
To be honest? Nothing.
Once I'm flat out, I'm flat out, until it passes.
Whether that's days or months? I never know until it's over. Which is why I avoid it as much as humanly possible. If I forget that once I'm down, I'm down? <low whistle> Badness.
It's one of the few things I'll break out emergency meds for. To prevent it happening. It's also something that once I feel myself start going (or wake up enough / surface enough to realize I'm already there) that I will fight tooth and nail.
Once I'm flat out, I'm flat out, until it passes.
Whether that's days or months? I never know until it's over. Which is why I avoid it as much as humanly possible. If I forget that once I'm down, I'm down? <low whistle> Badness.
It's one of the few things I'll break out emergency meds for. To prevent it happening. It's also something that once I feel myself start going (or wake up enough / surface enough to realize I'm already there) that I will fight tooth and nail.
Panda Bear
Platinum Member
Some times, nothing will help me get out of bed. There have been seasons where the world is so dark, that it's just going to suck me back into the whole. No matter who or what needs me, I'm still not able to comply.
Right now? My kids and daily life and the fact that me T believes in me to keep going. A husband who cherishes me and has watched too much pain and suffering. My marriage, it needs be to be present.
Now...I want all these things and then some. I want more! So even the dark seasons have a bit of light shining through them.
Right now? My kids and daily life and the fact that me T believes in me to keep going. A husband who cherishes me and has watched too much pain and suffering. My marriage, it needs be to be present.
Now...I want all these things and then some. I want more! So even the dark seasons have a bit of light shining through them.
- Status
Similar posts
Donation drives
Trending content
-
-
What Are You Feeling Today? Not Thinking, Rather Feeling! Can You Identify Yours?
- goingonhope
Comments: 34K -
-
-
-
