Is pinching preteens nipples considered sexual abuse

[Wececi]

They are gas lighting you. They know they are in the wrong and trying to make you feel like you are in the wrong. That is a form of emotional abuse. Yes, what he did is sexual abuse. Have you told your parents, or the police if your parents won't listen? This is disgusting behavior...

 

[Mibuz]

Just to clarify again, I am an adult. The witness was my legal guardian. It happened years ago, but the witness, my legal guardian, won't drop it and is using it as a type of blackmail right now due to information I need to find a birth sibling.

 

[Mezi]

Yeah, f*ck the witness. Witnesses who don't report or victim blame are just as bad as the abusers, IMO. Good luck with the birth sib, though.

 

[Focip]

The witness calls me to tell me I am alone and no one cares about me because I screwed myself over by saying what he did. The will call and say "Burn any more bridges lately you little snot?" or "I was calling to see if you were dead yet, I am disappointed to hear no one has gotten sick of enough of your lies about <inset abusers name here> to kill you yet."

This is also followed by or precedes, "Remember when you were 4 and you almost flunked preschool because you couldn't use scissors? You still have that problem right?" or "Remember in 5th grade when all the kids hated you so much they would always bully you because you followed them around like a sick puppy? I am still embarrassed by you over that, do you realize I still have to run into these peoples parents."

My family does this. They send me nasty-grams by text, facebook messages or facebook posts, calls etc. I had to change my cell # and block them all on facebook.

I also had to back away from them and just basically isolate from them. They took 3 yrs of my therapy. My therapist helped me back away from them so they could not affect me anymore.

 

[Focip]

but the witness, my legal guardian, won't drop it and is using it as a type of blackmail right now due to information I need to find a birth sibling.

Why are the witnesses your legal guardian? You say you are an adult. Why do you need legal guardians.

 

[Vevas]

OP here

The witness WAS my legal guardian.

They were my legal guardian as a child. tThe state placed with with this person as a child.

 

[Uwar]

Why do you need legal guardians.

Imho this is an incredibly rude and intrusive question, regardless. It's not up to you or anyone else to question why an adult may have a legal guardian. What does it matter if an adult has a legal guardian? And why does it matter to you? Or are you simply unaware that some adults do indeed have legal guardians?

 

[Guwera]

It's not up to you or anyone else to question why an adult may have a legal guardian. What does it matter if an adult has a legal guardian?

It doesn't matter in this thread, because it was simply someone misreading.

That said? It drastically changes the options available to the OP if they were an adult with a legal guardian. It also very much brings into question which country they're in, as laws & oversight to prevent & handle abuses vary even more by country. Just assuming the US, however? There are about a dozen different organizations (some governmental, some legal, some non-profit), all with their own processes and steps, with very little overlap between them. And then about a dozen more avenues for advocates to handle dealing with those organizations. Being able to direct someone to the right source for help? Means knowing why they're under care. It's not an insane thing to ask. People have guardians for a wide variety of reasons.

 

[Ajuh]

It doesn't matter in this thread, because it was simply someone misreading.

That said? It drastically changes the opt...

You miss my point.

It's nobody's business to question WHY someone has a guardian. Just like it would be intrusive for someone to question WHY I have PTSD.

Nobody needs to know WHY someone has a guardian, just that they have one.

*knock knock*

Is this thing on?

LOL.

 

[Guwera]

You miss my point.

Nope. I disagree with it.

You think there's no reason why. I think there's solid reason why.

 

[Aloj]

Nope. I disagree with it.

You think there's no reason why. I think there's solid reason why.

Ok whatever. I guess you're right and I'm wrong. This discussion won't end until I say I'm wrong so I'm saying I'm wrong. You can now stop arguing with me because you win.

 

[Iwaka]

It is ASSAULT. I'd lose my mind if I saw someone doing that to my daughter, who is now ten. Those defending him and getting angry at you are totally TOTALLY in the wrong.

Find a responsible adult and make this know if you feel comfortable.