Name that distorted cognition (thought/perception)

[ms spock]

All or nothing thinking -- I do not even allow myself to perform so I don't have to feel myself as a total failure.

Over-generalization -- I am doing this a little bit less.

Mental filter -- I dwell on that drop of ink..

Disqualifying the positive -- I do this.

Jumping to conclusions -- A lot of this as I project my Mother and Father on to most people around me.

Magnification and minimization -- I do both of this.

Emotional reasoning -- I feel it and it feels real to me.

 

[Chiqui]

@Disco Dancing Queen , I could subscribe all your points above. I guess, after pointed them, we need to desempower them. Vos se do It effectively. I feel It and It feels real to me, for instance.
If I feel It, must be true. If I feel I can't do any work, It is veery difficult for me to do anything againys, even

 

[Chiqui]

Though I Know It is false statement,.,

 

[Emotional girl]

I am doing this precise topic at the moment in therapy and I am finding it really hard as negative thoughts rule my life and I need that change so I can move on.
My psychologist told me that I am in a basically in a abusive relationship with myself as I am so harsh and hard on myself all of the time.
I would say my main problems are all or nothing thoughts,name calling and emotional reasoning.

 

[ms spock]

My psychologist told me that I am in a basically in a abusive relationship with myself as I am so harsh and hard on myself all of the time.

I can relate to this! I can really relate to this!

 

[Emotional girl]

I can relate to this! I can really relate to this!

It took me by surprise when he first said it but now I have been thinking about it I think it is 100 % true and now I need to know how you break free from the cycle but it is hard when it is all that you have been used to.

 

[ms spock]

now I need to know how you break free from the cycle

The David Burns' books are good to work through.

All or nothing thinking -- You see things in black and white categories. If your performance falls short of perfect, you see yourself as a total failure.
Because of this type of thinking I avoid doing things.

Over-generalization -- You see a single negative event as a never-ending pattern of defeat.
I go here quite a bit.

Mental filter -- You pick out a single negative detail and dwell on it so exclusively that your vision of all reality becomes darkened, like the drop of ink that colors the entire beaker of water.
I do this as well.

Disqualifying the positive -- You reject positive experiences by insisting they "don't count" for some reason or other. In this way you can maintain a negative belief that is contradicted by your everyday experiences.
I see my whole life as a failure.

Jumping to conclusions -- You make a negative interpretation even though there are no definite facts that convincingly support your conclusion. (Involves mind-reading and fortune-telling.)
I don't check in with what people are thinking or doing. I do what I think or have forecast that they would want me to do. I am not responding in real time a lot of the time.

Magnification and minimization -- You exaggerate the importance of things, or you inappropriately shrink things until they appear tiny.
I just become what I think is wanted a lot of the time.

Emotional reasoning -- You assume that your emotions necessarily reflect the way things really are, as in "I feel it, therefore it must be true."
I really live in this so much. Just because I feel it does not mean it is true.

Should statements -- You try to motivate yourself with "should" and "should not," as if you have to be whipped and punished before you could be expected to do anything.
I am harsh with myself.

Labeling and mislabeling -- This is an extreme form of overgeneralization. Instead of describing your error, you attach a negative label to yourself.
I do a lot of this. I am abusive to myself.

Personalization -- You see yourself as the cause of some negative external event which, in fact, you were not primarily responsible for.
I still do this surrounding my family.

 

[ms spock]

For the longest time from quite a young person I was just an endless rumination of distorted thinking. I am changing. I have improved out of sight, not as much as you would hope for as much effort that I have put into, I think that sometimes, but really it is all absolutely worth it, because I am not attacking myself as much endlessly day in and day out. It was a disconnection strategy, beat myself up so hard that it didn't matter what anyone else did to me, because I was already slayed anyway. Anyway a kind of perverse survival mechanism, but it worked, I survived, and many I went through with didn't make it.


All or nothing thinking -- Yep -- because of this type of thinking I avoid doing things. Didn't do that yesterday I stepped and embraced the hardest thing for me.

Over-generalization -- I go here quite a bit, it is less automatic.

Mental filter -- You pick out a single negative detail - a drop of ink that colors the entire beaker of water. I do this as well. And sometimes I am terribly hard on my partner.

Disqualifying the positive -- Yeah need to work on this one, but improving. Sometimes I see my whole life as a failure, but there are moments when I don't.

Jumping to conclusions I did this with my parents continuously - mind-reading and fortune-telling.I am not responding in real time a lot of the time. But more than I ever have I think.

Magnification and minimization -- it is hard when you don't trust yourself and your reality and your own experiences. Stuck on this one. I don't want to blow my top, so I let people walk over me a lot.

Emotional reasoning -- Indeed! Just because I feel it does not mean it is true.

Should statements -- I am harsh with myself. Terribly, terribly harsh with myself.

Labeling and mislabeling -- Instead of describing your error, you attach a negative label to yourself.I do a lot of this. I am abusive to myself. But working on Self Compassion a lot.

Personalization -- I did not cause the problems with my family, but I still blame myself.

 

[ms spock]

I am doing lots of jumping to conclusions, mind reading, personalisation, and emotional reasoning, and black and white thinking.

@tracy jones this is based on David Burns' book.

@Cyberluddite you might find this of interest.

 

[Deleted member 37868]

I am doing lots of jumping to conclusions, mind reading, personalisati...

Interesting, I do ALL of those things all the time.

 

[ms spock]

All or nothing thinking -- You see things in black and white categories. If your performance falls short of perfect, you see yourself as a total failure. I avoid doing things so as not to fail.

Over-generalization -- You see a single negative event as a never-ending pattern of defeat. I go here quite a bit. This type of thinking contributes to helplessness and hopelessness.

Mental filter -- You pick out a single negative detail and dwell on it so exclusively that your vision of all reality becomes darkened, like the drop of ink that colors the entire beaker of water. I do this as well. I need to not do that around my sense of belonging and people.

Disqualifying the positive -- You reject positive experiences by insisting they "don't count" for some reason or other. In this way you can maintain a negative belief that is contradicted by your everyday experiences. Often I see my whole life as a failure.

Jumping to conclusions -- You make a negative interpretation even though there are no definite facts that convincingly support your conclusion. (Involves mind-reading and fortune-telling.) I don't check in with what people are thinking or doing. I do what I think forecast that they would want me to do. I am not responding in real time a lot of the time.

Magnification and minimization -- You exaggerate the importance of things, or you inappropriately shrink things until they appear tiny.
I just become what I think is wanted a lot of the time.

Emotional reasoning -- You assume that your emotions necessarily reflect the way things really are, as in "I feel it, therefore it must be true."
I really live in this so much. Just because I feel it does not mean it is true.

Should statements -- You try to motivate yourself with "should" and "should not," I whip and punish myself could be expected to do anything. I am harsh with myself.

Labeling and mislabeling -- This is an extreme form of overgeneralization. Instead of describing your error, you attach a negative label to yourself. I do a lot of this. I am abusive to myself.

Personalization -- You see yourself as the cause of some negative external event which, in fact, you were not primarily responsible for.
I still do this surrounding my family.

 

[ms spock]

@Chiqui this might be of interest for you?

Working on "Jumping to conclusions consisting of mind-reading and fortune-telling" has helped me unpack a whole lot of lies. This has occurred in a most important and profound way, which has meant that a guy trying to isolate his partner has been unable to do so due to my calling the lies. It all fell down.

I could have ended up living with that guy, so I also protected myself in a big way. My standing my ground was so important, much more so than I even knew at the time.