Hurt.

[Rogaca]

The trauma is what connects everyone here.

Yes and yes and yes. Good reminder.

 

[Otike]

This happens to me pretty often. Now if I say “this happens“ it sounds as if some force is working against me, which is not the case. I know that. Its distortion.

It's because you are getting rejected twice ( or you feel that way) It's called a richoshet or deflection. Most known in this case as- one rejection from the past and one from the present, at the same time... and then , "BOOM" straight to the heart. :oops: ( therapy will teach you this) Sorry, you're hurting.. and if it was me.. it wasn't intended.

 

[Pefokif]

It really has no value on my worth as a person if I do not let it. It is simply human nature. So sometimes a place like this can be used as a tool to learn to deal with life as it is and to not take it personally.////



Thank you...full of wisdom

 

[Kadeja]

's called a richoshet or deflection. Most known in this case as- one rejection from the past and one from the present, at the same time... and then

You sound familiar to me ;-)

Thanks gonna check up on this.... as long as I am cleaning around the traumas I am not getting to the core

 

[Kadeja]

? "Being heard" or the thankfulness of the receivers of your advice?... And why do you feel that folks here have to be thankful to you? Entitlement? Insecurity? Or something completely different? I

@Utog well I felt that I was dedicated to giving an answer, but this was not being acknowledged... bottom line is: The unthankfulness/ unseen/ not being adored= Is almost like a part of me that is a bit narcissistic side that wants to lower others. It goes back to my past of humiliation and helplessness. Thats where I need to plug in to truly heal... hard work trying in small steps

 

[Cipo]

Feeling unheard and ignored is a huge trigger for me too. I'm glad you shared that, because I too felt that i was being childish. Maybe it's not childish; rather, its the child IN us.

I said something on here a member didn't like. I only spoke the truth of my opinion and she couldn't handle it. I forgive her. I know she and I have similar issues and are both sufferers. She's got her own stuff as do I. She still ignores me because it went against her opinion. But it's not gonna stop me from having my opinions. That's her own stuff to deal with.

We all have problems. Just keep going. Keep being yourself. The right people will become obvious; the wrong ones already are so hey, you're half way there. This is all part of living in a world full of different, complex people. You are fine.

 

[Wisutu]

But it's not gonna stop me from having my opinions. That's her own stuff to deal with.

Hope its not ME? :-) But I am not ignoring anyone...

Whatever....yes you are right, I think once I am able to creep out of that state of mind things appear differently.

Thanks for remembering