General Sigh... I am so tired today

[Never_falter2]

?????I did not sleep much this night because he did not and that always keeps me up, his stupid alarm clock rang at 0530 this morning, the day before that my guy was drinking a lot this weekend and stayed up until the early morning hours with a friend (and they started shouting, I mean not angrily but joyfully shouting at this time of day) and we quarreled about him drinking. Hubby telling me he likes to drink in order to relax, his friend agreeing with him. Later hubby was angry at me I started complaining in front of his friend.
I have a thousand to-dos this week, some of which I found out about just very recently (yesterday).

? Being a grown-up sucks, wish somebody had told me when I was a kid. I would have refused to grow up then.

 

[Friday]

? Being a grown-up sucks, wish somebody had told me when I was a kid. I would have refused to grow up then.

Everything is temporary. :p Grow old, not up!

Seriously though... on days where -nope!- but I have kids so I can’t just go back to bed?

I used to set up the tent (or make a blanket fort if the tent wasn’t clean) in the living room in front of the TV, and string up Xmas lights / fairy lights, and order pizza (mama’s not cooking!) and shut off the house lights... and we’d watch movies and eat pizza and play cards and wear pajamas all day, and sleep in the sleeping bags. <<< I’m ME so pajamas all day means take a shower and get in clean ones in the morning and at bedtime >>> But that’s what? Half an hour of setup for 15 hours of “I’m not doing anything today” (except making good memories ;)).

Sometimes when I don’t want to be a grownup? :sneaky: Are the BEST days.

 

[LuckiLee]

Thanks for the reminder @Friday. J and I will move the furniture in the living room and put the blow up air mattress on the floor. Order pizza watch movies or play board games. It's been too long since we did that. The next rainy evening that's what we're gonna do. (And we don't have kids in the home with us ?)

@Never_falter2, sorry you're so exhausted. This seems to happen alot to you. If he's awake what does he do? Is he in the bedroom with you keeping you awake? Tossing and turning or talking to you?

I guess I don't understand why his lack of sleep affects you? When J can't sleep he hangs out in the living room. He always says that I shouldn't lose sleep because he is. He gets "fidgety" sometimes and he'll sleep on the couch.

Sometimes you gotta do what ya gotta do? If he can't sleep he should be courteous of others in the home. Right?

 

[Never_falter2]

That would be so nice @Friday but I have so many to-dos. Still very tired, still many to-dos today.

@LuckiLee Well, it depends. He doesn’t always do the same things. Sometimes he wakes up screaming. I don’t think I have to explain why that wakes me up.

But I also have a light sleep and sometimes wake up when he gets up or walks around the house or tries to be useful (he often cleans the house when he is awake at night) or from the sound of the water pipe when he draws a bath, which he sometimes does at night. I know, sounds pretty weird but if he is feeling unwell having a bath often helps him.

He often drinks at night and when I wake and notice I try to get him back to bed.

Sometimes - when he is drunk he feels like he wants to talk and when I have been sleeping but he notices I open an eyelid he starts talking to me. Unfortunately I cannot tell him to wait until the morning because he typically doesn’t like to talk but I think he sometimes has to talk about what’s going on on his mind because it hurts him if he doesn’t. Know what I mean?

 

[lostforgottensoul]

@Never_falter2, can you use some earbuds or noise canceling headphones maybe connect them to your phone and maybe play something soothing to cancel out the noise he makes? I would advise earplugs but if you have an alarm, that might be a bad idea. But, that'll at least help for some of it, if they stay in all night anyway.

 

[Never_falter2]

@lostforgottensoul Thanks for your advice but I think earplugs aren’t for me. We have an alarm clock and also I want to know what’s going on... if my children need me.... (if my vet needs me).

I realized that my posts make it look as if I never get any sleep. That is actually not true but when I am feeling very tired I often feel I need to talk about it and come to this place.

I was so tired today but did everything I planned to do. I am pretty proud of myself now.

 

[Cielo77]

@Never_falter2, nice to meet you. I am proud of you for standing up for what is right. If you allow your hubby to have his buddies over, then that is great. you have set a healthy boundary for no drinking and driving. However he should respect your space, meaning that if its late, you should get your sleep. when it comes to upsetting him while drinking, usually not a good idea to argue. but to simply mention that "I'm glad you having a nice time with your friends. at night noise seems louder because its quieter. So if you would please lower it a little so I can rest nicely." that is addressing he is ok to have friends over, that you are happy for him, and that you have boundaries and space that you wish not to invade just like he felt when he started to get mad in front of his friends. Its a respect issue and honoring each others space at different times. This happens a lot in relationships. I hope you get everything accomplished on your to do list. sending encouragement and a hug.