I slept with my therapist, now what?

[whiteraven]

Good. Because you cheated. Doesn't matter who with or why. You have to take responsibility for your part. Face up to it.

Yeah, I agree with this. Own your part in it, then move on to a new therapist. Report if you feel you can. And take care of yourself.

 

[Kamorth]

If she had any kind of professional ethics and this was genuinely a drunken "accident" as she's claiming, she wouldn't be giving you the choice about whether or not to continue your patient/therapist relationship, she would have ended it already. I think that's the biggest red flag for me in this whole scenario.

 

[Rumors]

@Muted checking in on you muted... I hope you are doing ok. Hope you will report back in soon!!!

 

[Mach123]

This is a big deal I don't want to minimize it but it is not unexpected and shouldn't surprise anyone . I didn't say no one did anything wrong. The first book I got was Judith Herman trauma and recovery and she talks about it but it's not like didn't know it anyway.

Everything is about sex with me mostly and it always has been due to CSA meaning I'm not like others I dont believe. I'm like a small population of others who have undergone a similar experience. So I have to see a woman therapist and talk about sex. What do you think? I'm not going to think about it?

And, sex happens. People have too much to drink who shouldn't. Yes it's all wrong, just not totally unexpected.

So do damage control. Try to keep everyone unhurt if its possible. I'm really sorry. Maybe everyone gets off clean, maybe not. I hope you are doing ok you reached out and talked about it.

No small thing.

 

[somerandomguy]

Try to keep everyone unhurt if its possible.

Not possible.

"Eh, it happens" is not a helpful response.

 

[blackemerald1]

Eh, it happens" is not a helpful response.

^ Agreed. It's not like some kind of statistical anomaly. Or the inevitable outcome of a T drinking too much. It's not an accident. People don't fall down and accidentally copulate. One of the other - usually both, truth be known are quite aware of what they're doing.

Having lots of regrets after having sex with someone doesn't an accident make it. :rolleyes:

 

[Mee]

^ Agreed. It's not like some kind of statistical anomaly. Or the inevitable outcome of a T drinking too much. It's not an accident. People don't fall down and accidentally copulate. One of the other - usually both, truth be known are quite aware of what they're doing.

Having lots of regrets after having sex with someone doesn't an accident make it. :rolleyes:

I agree with this.

I do think the power deferential here is highly relevant however.

I think also - and I note this area is a particular trigger for me - chastising OP isn’t going to un do what has happened.

Looking at what can happen going forward is productive . Op is taking responsibility for their part.

Therapist is seems is not taking this ‘that’ seriously and is a position to ‘screw up’ lots of clients’ lives in the future if the incident isn’t reported.

I usually accept reporting is an individual choice - to police - but in this sort of incident wherereporting impropriety but not crime and people in vulnerable situations I hope the therapists reporting body can be informed.

 

[Muted]

If she had any kind of professional ethics and this was genuinely a drunken "accident" as she

You don’t think it was a drunken accident? The whole thing just shocked me.

 

[Muted]

@Muted checking in on you muted...

Thank you so much! I’m doing ok, just still having a tough time processing all of this. I’ve even thought of trying online counseling.

 

[Muted]

.. I hope you are doing ok you reached out and talked about it.

No small thing.

Thank you, I agree. I think I’m just shocked, because I thought I was the only one of us who had those feelings, I was pretty upfront, because I was confused why the feelings wouldn’t go away. I was able to set them aside though. But, the night this happened caught me off guard. This was very out of the blue for me. I’ve never done anything like this or did anything but fantasize it happening.

 

[Muted]

She said she was blacked out though?

 

[Mee]

She said she was blacked out though?

What is your therapist doing drinking around you? Socialising only such a state with clients?