What a horrible situation I'm in.
Right then, imagine I've been a heavy cannabis smoker for 14 years on and off, I'm 27 now.
I've been spending most of that time with a toxic family member/cousin, to get high. I couldn't roll spliffs, so my cousin done it for me.
Anyway, I've finally decided to quit and I don't want to see my cousin anymore.
Its not just because I've quit weed, its also because he's not a very nice person, at all.
The only reason he used to hang around with me in the first place, was to get high. There was no like for each other there, just using each other I guess to get high.
I've brought new jackets in the past and I've noticed big bogeys smudged into them, he's burned my carpet when I've told him to be careful because I like my carpet and value it. He never respected my room and left it messy after he left. He doesn't say he's at mine when somebody phones, he always lies and says his at his "mates". He only comes to my house for a quick for 10-15 minutes to get high (when it suits him). I show him something to look at on the internet, its shit. I ask him to have a go on the Xbox, he doesn't want to play because the games shit. I've had enough off him!
Here's the problem, he has a two year old daughter that's close with my mom and I told my mom now that I've quit and heavy into personal development, I don't want to see him anymore and she's got to cover for me. I've asked her to say I've gone my dads for a month or I'm not here, but here's the problem.. she won't do it! Its not just because of the weed its because of his unlikability. I want to be around good people, you know? He's a coke addict on top, which I want nothing to do with. Anyway, my mom is close with his daughter and refuses to cover for me on the phone. She knows how unhappy the guy makes me and I told her the only reason she's close with his daughter in the first place, is because she's a product of me and my cousins heavy smoking habits. I told her she needs to be sacrificed because she only comes round with my cousin. I have no problem with his daughter by the way, she's a nice little girl, but in my opinion, she's a wedge between me and my mom/cousin. Its not her fault obviously, her dad has created it.
Anyway, I'm thinking about going to live with my dad for a bit, who I'm not particularly close with. My mom agreed to help cover for me, but she literally betrayed me the first time he rang. He comes round a lot usually, probably 3-4 times a week. My dad's home is a downgrade and its not a nice as my moms, but I'm thinking it might be necessary to grow and succeed. I know your probably thinking just tell him you don't like it, but I'm not that cold. I'd rather just avoid him, instead.
In my opinion, I'm thinking well done, this is the best thing you've decided to do in a long time, cut out a toxic person, but my mom is making it difficult for me.. so maybe she needs to be cut out too? Let me know what you guys think, thank you for reading or any advice below.
P.S I understand I'm being cold and selfish, but why spend time with someone your not happy with and toxic? My mom could always see his daughter somewhere else, but this home is problematic because she always comes with my cousin. My mom has completely f*cking betrayed me and made me realize that maybe its better for me to be out the area.
Right then, imagine I've been a heavy cannabis smoker for 14 years on and off, I'm 27 now.
I've been spending most of that time with a toxic family member/cousin, to get high. I couldn't roll spliffs, so my cousin done it for me.
Anyway, I've finally decided to quit and I don't want to see my cousin anymore.
Its not just because I've quit weed, its also because he's not a very nice person, at all.
The only reason he used to hang around with me in the first place, was to get high. There was no like for each other there, just using each other I guess to get high.
I've brought new jackets in the past and I've noticed big bogeys smudged into them, he's burned my carpet when I've told him to be careful because I like my carpet and value it. He never respected my room and left it messy after he left. He doesn't say he's at mine when somebody phones, he always lies and says his at his "mates". He only comes to my house for a quick for 10-15 minutes to get high (when it suits him). I show him something to look at on the internet, its shit. I ask him to have a go on the Xbox, he doesn't want to play because the games shit. I've had enough off him!
Here's the problem, he has a two year old daughter that's close with my mom and I told my mom now that I've quit and heavy into personal development, I don't want to see him anymore and she's got to cover for me. I've asked her to say I've gone my dads for a month or I'm not here, but here's the problem.. she won't do it! Its not just because of the weed its because of his unlikability. I want to be around good people, you know? He's a coke addict on top, which I want nothing to do with. Anyway, my mom is close with his daughter and refuses to cover for me on the phone. She knows how unhappy the guy makes me and I told her the only reason she's close with his daughter in the first place, is because she's a product of me and my cousins heavy smoking habits. I told her she needs to be sacrificed because she only comes round with my cousin. I have no problem with his daughter by the way, she's a nice little girl, but in my opinion, she's a wedge between me and my mom/cousin. Its not her fault obviously, her dad has created it.
Anyway, I'm thinking about going to live with my dad for a bit, who I'm not particularly close with. My mom agreed to help cover for me, but she literally betrayed me the first time he rang. He comes round a lot usually, probably 3-4 times a week. My dad's home is a downgrade and its not a nice as my moms, but I'm thinking it might be necessary to grow and succeed. I know your probably thinking just tell him you don't like it, but I'm not that cold. I'd rather just avoid him, instead.
In my opinion, I'm thinking well done, this is the best thing you've decided to do in a long time, cut out a toxic person, but my mom is making it difficult for me.. so maybe she needs to be cut out too? Let me know what you guys think, thank you for reading or any advice below.
P.S I understand I'm being cold and selfish, but why spend time with someone your not happy with and toxic? My mom could always see his daughter somewhere else, but this home is problematic because she always comes with my cousin. My mom has completely f*cking betrayed me and made me realize that maybe its better for me to be out the area.