Poll Has Stubborness Affected Your Healing?

[sallysellsseashells]

Then my answer would be both 1. and 2.

 

[Marie E.]

I'm a very stubborn person and heal better with more than just a therapist and had a few bad ones.

 

[Brontie]

I’m a fiery-redhead. Being stubborn is part of my make-up. Strange enough being stubborn worked for me. It was my stubbornness and strength of will that made me want to know what the hell was going on with me. It was this stubbornness and willpower that led me to read all the books I’ve read that helped me to understand more and more. When I was told that I think and read too much it was my stubbornness that kept me going.

 

[Deleted member 6617]

Hmmm....I'm gonna say it has because I can be super stubborn. Part of me though wonders if it is more fear that affects my therapy than stubbornness. OH who am I kidding...the answer is YES!

 

[Philippa]

I’m a fiery-redhead. Being stubborn is part of my make-up. Strange enough being stubborn worked for me. It was my stubbornness and strength of will that made me want to know what the hell was going on with me. It was this stubbornness and willpower that led me to read all the books I’ve read that helped me to understand more and more. When I was told that I think and read too much it was my stubbornness that kept me going.

I'm like this as well. I'm a Leo with a Leo sun rising and a Taurus moon...I'm REALLY stubborn and very fiery. I like my feistiness, and I can see how my stubbornness has helped me to get this far and survive...but it definately gets in the way of changing, as I have been coming to realize in the last few months.

 

[Heather]

I definitely think it's played a huge role. I've been so angry that this was done to me by other people and yet I am the one that is left to clean up the mess.

I am beginning to realise that if I put half as much energy into healing myself as I do stewing over the fact that I'm left to pick up the pieces because of what others did to me.....I'd be that much further along.

 

[Brontie]

I'm like this as well. I'm a Leo with a Leo sun rising and a Taurus moon...I'm REALLY stubborn and very fiery. I like my feistiness, and I can see how my stubbornness has helped me to get this far and survive...but it definately gets in the way of changing, as I have been coming to realize in the last few months.

I’m a Capricorn born on the cusp of Aquarius. I used to be into Astrology quite a bit. Seems I’m the stubborn mountain goat climbing sure footed until I reach my goals.

I agree. Stubbornness got me where I am but I have to admit when it came to taking advice from others, it often got in the way. Thankfully, I think I've mellowed out a bit with age. But I can still enjoy my stubbornness. It helps me to create and stick with my own personal rules and boundaries.

 

[freakofnurture]

I'm selectively stubborn and sometimes it's hard to tell if I actually do have a good counter-argument, or if I'm just too stubborn to accept a new insight.

EDIT: Although I might add that mostly my stubbornness is part of a protective mechanism.
I don't know if it hurt my therapy progress; if that mechanism didn't fall yet, maybe I'm just not ready to handle whatever it's protecting me from.

 

[Heather]

too stubborn to accept a new insight.

I find I do this a lot too especially with my therapist. I'm trying not to be argumentative with him and listen to what he has to say but it's not easy!

 

[freakofnurture]

I'm trying not to be argumentative with him

I'd find that impossible. I mean, a T is not a psychic who's got you totally figured out. They could be wrong. If something my T says doesn't immediately make sense to me, I question it until it either makes sense due to her further explanations or she drops the topic.
So, a bit of stubbornness could just be us standing up for our own knowledge about ourselfs.

 

[Cthulhu]

Hmm, they already said I was stubborn when I was a small child. I haven't thought about that for a long time, but when I do I see it never changed. The word doesn't really fit, it's more that one has to have very conclusive points to convince me of something that I see different. If I don't think he/she's right then well... I don't integrate it into my mind.
That's partly ok and partly a total disaster because that kind of argument often collides with my emotional core's missing selfworth- I feel attacked and bite back.

On the other hand this so-called stubbornness has brought me where I am just because if I want to reach certain goals then I just fight for them until I've reached them- at all costs. This can be a very positive thing, but when it's attached to the upper version well... It can be a social disaster...

 

[Heather]

So, a bit of stubbornness could just be us standing up for our own knowledge about ourselfs.

That's a very good point you make. I don't think so in my case though. I give my therapist a lot of sh*t most of it unwarranted. I know I'm a pain in the a$$. Just as my therapist. He'll be more than happy to agree. I've gotten A LOT better since I've been on my meds. Thank god for TOPOMAX. All 400 mg. of it.