What To Never Say To A Ptsd Sufferer

[shadowchaser]

My by a buss stop talking to myself trying to reassure everything is ok. Complete stranger walks up.

"Do you need a hug?"

Dude I know she was just trying to help but that sent me off the deep end. Why do strangers want to hug and your family want you to go away?

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I do not believe you. You are imagining things. You do not need help. You are fine.

 

[DharmaGirl]

Yikes, Shadowchaser, I would have screamed! I have a huge startle response and I know I would have completly lost it at that point.

 

[shadowchaser]

Yikes, Shadowchaser, I would have screamed! I have a huge startle response and I know I would have completely lost it at that point.

I jumped whipped around and I know I gave a nasty look. I know it's in my head and they weren't trying to scare me. I've considered wearing a shirt that says "Antisocial. Don't ask you don't want to know". But with my luck that would just get more people trying to talk to me.

 

[Mandy Tad]

Had the same reaction once.I was in the city on work when I was called back to the office, the bullies were at it again and my manager forced me to leave all the work and come back to the office. None of my other team members were asked to come back even though they were all required to attend this so called meeting. I was at the train station, in tears and this stranger walked up to me and said - Life is too short to cry over something, you are young, stay strong, you have a huge life ahead of you and then disappeared. Gave me goosebumps!
Yes strangers can be more understanding than your own family.

 

[Tanishq]

You can go to work. You are smiling now.But keep taking your medications.!

Most annoying thing to hear. Even it can hurt who has not ptsd. :mad:

I really want another button in addition to "Like"

aren't you suggesting "I agree" button? It helps when I receive Likes and makes me feel heard. I have been feeling loved here and that is healthy love, support. It's great feeling. :happy:

Love to everyone. :hug:

Here people tell me, read your college books and attend college that will take garbage out of you and you will feel great. It instantly makes me go off. If reading book was solution for our every life problems, I think we all wouldn't be here. :laugh:

 

[JustBe]

Maybe a button that says "I am here" or "I am listening".

Sometimes "like" feels like the wrong thing to say.

 

[Srain]

I really want another button in addition to "Like"

How about "OMG!!!" or "WTF??!!!"

 

[Tanishq]

Sometimes "like" feels like the wrong thing to say.

Fixed it for everyone. Actually it reaches to everyone. You click on "like" with intention "I hear you" and people receive the same intention of being listened. Works! Magic! :)

Back on the topic:

Never give ptsd sufferer a false hope. It can hurt them.

 

[Srain]

What bothers me the most isn't always what people say it's mostly when they ignore the obvious, big bright smile and pretend they don't see or hear what I'm saying.

I mean really??? I look like hell, I said I feel even worse,mind-boggling.

 

[Tanishq]

when they ignore the obvious, big bright smile and pretend they don't see or hear what I'm saying.

What makes me laugh. They are fooling themselves by denying reality.

They are the ones who spend whole life pretending. How tiring it must be! No originality, only copy and facing away from reality.

 

[Blondie362]

I don't like :
"You have to to let go of the past, life is too short "!!:mad:
"Chill out or loosen up" :mad:
"Yes but it hasn't happened yet has it" ?:mad: ... ( that's the one I hate when I am hypervigilent, and a family member can't understand why I am so alert & tense)
"Worry when there is something to worry about "... classic!!

Katye