Poll Has Your Abuse Left You With Any Permanent Physical Damage?

[p-no]

What I mean is:

Are there any parts of your body that were damaged during the abuse? If so, can the damage be reversed, e.g. by surgery, treatment, etc? If not, how do you deal with having and/or touching those parts of your body?

 

[p-no]

Yes for me. It has come up lately in therapy when my t suggested a certain type of PTSD treatment that would usually involve the part of my body that was permanently damaged. I don't like touching it, simply because I know where the damage comes from. It is not reversible. Would be interested in learning how you deal with this.

 

[system victim 2012]

I was injured in one of my many trauma incidents by a previous partner.

We was joining a overhead motorway at the speed of about 60mph (I was driving). We was arguing and all of a sudden my ex pulled up the hand brake and the tire blew out and we collided with the barriers on impact.

I pulled my hip out of place and caused some damage to my knee, as a result I have arthritis in both areas and every so often and especially in winter I'm reminded of that incident due to the cold and the way it affect my injurys.

I don't deal with it very well and I become extremely nervous traveling by car, bus and anything that moves to be honest, and I become an emotional mess every winter. This has been going on for over 6 years now but the pain at times feel like the accident only took place moments ago.:mad::(

 

[Violet03]

Early childhood trauma caused some physical injuries that required surgery later in life. Now I have a permanent pain disorder that is difficult to manage. One of the triggers that makes my pain worse is stress- ironic isn't it.

 

[The Albatross]

Surgical intervention improved, but didn't eliminate my problem. It may be a contributing factor to my sleep apnea. I don't have a problem looking at or touching the area because I know I've done what I can. I had though to work on accepting that.

 

[Anna]

The trauma when I was 17 has killed the nerves in my bladder. I know when I need to go to the toilet, I just don't feel pain anymore there. The major issue with this is when I have a urine infection I don't notice unless the smell is bad, I pass blood or it gets into my kidneys. Normally I end up with the latter.

Don't think there is anything I can do about it except watch for a smell. Otherwise it is ok, no leakage or anything like that.

 

[Ice_Fire]

Yes, my left knee has been damaged from having a car door slamed on it repeatedly by my mother when I was 8 years old. I am currently doing physio, but my consultant thinks I will need surgery.

 

[JustBe]

Yes. Internal.No remedy.

 

[girlshawn]

I never really thought about it but yes. My lungs are fried I have COPD and I have degenerative disc disease and Hashimoto's Thyroid disease.

My mom was a two pack a day smoker and the more she smoked the harder it was to breathe. We spend a many a nights in my childhood at the ER for uncontrolled asthma attacks.
Before I was five she would snot other stuff around me.

As for they thyroid disease she use to say I got it from camping with her down wind of three mile island on the east coast as a kid. I don't know because I don't have any facts to back it up. I do know before she died she confused to all sorts of crazy stuff. If its true or not I don't know.

As for my back I don't blame anyone but myself. I've had a desk job for 15 years but I do think the the repetitive beatings as a child didn't help.

I remember once cowering up against a wall while she screamed and kicked me. I just protected my head.

My psychologist said my back is very much related. It's very hard for me to see the connection when the chiropractor is telling me something different and I don't even understand the spinal surgeon. I'm like just take the pain away. :-)

Chronic pain yeah it's just needs to go away now I'm just done with it.

 

[Nighthawk]

Sometimes the scar where I was shot burns so badly. Yes there was damage to bone and muscles. My chronic pain beats me up.

 

[girlshawn]

Sometimes the scar where I was shot burns so badly. Yes there was damage to bone and muscles. My chronic pain beats me up.

Chronic pain sucks.

Hugs sending warm healing thoughts

 

[p-no]

My mom was a two pack a day smoker and the more she smoked the harder it was to breathe. We spend a many a nights in my childhood at the ER for uncontrolled asthma attacks.
Before I was five she would snot other stuff around me.

My mother was a chain-smoker. Also, I grew up smelling Marijuana without knowing what it was. When I went to the Netherlands with my arts class for a few days at age 17, I found out. For me, it had been just like those incense sticks; it had kept me wondering all those years though why I would get all dizzy and sort-of sick in my brain from "them". Asthma sucks.

I do know before she died she confused to all sorts of crazy stuff. If its true or not I don't know.

Same here. Although my mother confused everything at all times. It was not really confusion, but never seeing reality but making her own perceptions reality at any given time. So, I was born at three completely different times, luckily all on the same day. One time in the evening, one time in the middle of the night and one time in the morning hours. When I got married I got a birth certificate and hey, none of the three were actually correct! (Grim sense of humor; it really makes me sick.)

As for my back I don't blame anyone but myself. I've had a desk job for 15 years but I do think the the repetitive beatings as a child didn't help.

Certainly not. Be kind to yourself and your back.

I remember once cowering up against a wall while she screamed and kicked me. I just protected my head.

Ditto. This is the loneliest place there is. I have never been at a lonelier one not even with my abusive husband. He did send me back various times to that place though. I am very sorry you were made to go there, too.


I have surgery coming up next year to get rid one of my two main physical damages my mother left me with. Until I read your post, girlshawn, I never even fully saw the abuse in the chain-smoking causing me asthma. I have tons of allergies, too, and neurodermatitis (got that as an adult, which acc. to doctors, is extremely rare). By then I had lived with now ex-husband. I knew already then it was the stress.


I wish we all did not have to have what the abuse left us with in addition to the trauma. Wishing for some peace for all.