Continuation Of Emotional Regulation Chat

[Nighthawk]

Seeing as there were quite a few people interested in continuing the chat and sharing in there progress. I started this thread here. That way we can continue the discussion on emotional regulation.

 

[Changing4Best]

I did do some focusing on the room, on the tips of my fingers, on the crown of my head, the feel of the way I was sitting and then on sounds and things in the room, and things like that, when I wandered into an unwanted emotion this week. It did help. In general, it sure was nice as well, to have had the chats last weekend, to look forward to them and then to have learned from them and been able to apply something.

Another thing I started to do was to look for happy memories from my childhood and email them to my sister. I asked her if she could recall any too. No responce yet from her, but it sure was nice to have a good laugh and a smile from these memories!

 

[Changing4Best]

I was thinking... if an announcement could be posted in the little thing up top that flips over which says what browsers the forum supports and if one made a mistake it can be corrected by... then everyone would know about any upcoming topic chat(s) and more folks could attend. Just a thought....

 

[The Albatross]

Frustration is still my most difficult emotion to regulate. I am doing better at anger or sadness, since I started reading about emotional regulation in various books. I am independently reading too, for a second time since I seem to retain little due to difficulty concentrating: The High Conflict Couple - A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy & Validation by Alan Fruzzetti, PhD

 

[Changing4Best]

That book sounds fascinating, Alba, I wonder, can it be a guide for friendships and family like sisters and brothers too? Glad some of it is helping you with some feelings anyway, we progress uphill as we go!

 

[The Albatross]

My theory is "relationship is relationship"... so yeah, it can be read with other relationships in mind. It is though a bit lofty, probly why my grey matter didn't retain it very well. On the second read now.

 

[safenow]

Do any of you have the links from last weekend that told of the children's emotional regulation? I recommended it to a lady, but couldn't find the link. It's a pdf file. Thanks.

 

[Changing4Best]

spl.stanford.edu/Gross08.pdf or maybe /Gross 08.pdf

 

[safenow]

Thank you, Sheila. I'll send that person here.

 

[Nighthawk]

There will be more promotion for the next topic based chat. I think the last ones went very well. I hope to anounce the next topic soon.

 

[Abstract]

If anyone has something that works well for the following and wants to share then that would be nice:
Shame
Anger
Hurt
Fear
Panic/anxiety

Sometimes it is the simple little actions that help the most to regulate emotion.

 

[Changing4Best]

Shame, if someone is trying to shame you, try not to let them. Remember that you have to agree to be shamed. It cannot happen without your consent and agreement. Then too, you can always remind them of a time when they should have been ashamed, that's the old eye-for-an-eye... principle.

Now if you just feel ashamed on your own, that is a different story. Then work hard to get your mind off what makes you feel ashamed. Do your hair up nice, or put on some make-up; listen to some of your favorite music; go out and do some shopping for something nice to reward yourself especially when you succeed for even a few monutes to get your mind off it.

I hope this helps. Let us know!